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The Moment That Changed Everything: Why I Share This Story

Many years ago, my mother made a decision that changed the entire trajectory of my life. I owe more to her than I could ever put into words. She is the reason I’m standing here today. The reason I speak about resilience, courage, and leadership the way I do. Long before I ever understood what strength looked like, she showed me. I grew up in a family where I had both a mom and a dad until I was about five or six years old. Those early years are critical. They’re when we learn how to speak, how to behave, how to show up in the world. They say from zero to six years old, we absorb habits and beliefs that can follow us for a lifetime. And sometimes, as adults, when we find ourselves unhappy with where we are, we have to peel back the layers. We have to go back in time and say, this root no longer serves me. We pull it out. And we plant a new seed. I had to do that work. Coaching. Counseling. Honest self-reflection. I had to forgive people. I had to forgive myself. When “Normal” Isn’t Healthy My mom raised the four of us in a northern reserve called Big River First Nation. At the time, I thought life was normal. Everything around me felt familiar, predictable. But as I got older, I realized it wasn’t the healthiest environment to be raised in. And my mother realized it too. Right at the end of kindergarten, on a hot summer day, everything changed. I remember getting dropped off at the end of a long gravel road—the kind that stretches forever, dusty, washboarded, with tall trees on both sides. As a kid, it felt like those trees were leaning in, almost touching. I walked step by step toward our house. And as I got closer, I could see my mom grabbing garbage bags and boxes—our belongings—loading them up. As a kid, you don’t understand what’s happening. You just want to feel loved. Safe. Encouraged. You want your voice to matter. And the truth is, those feelings don’t disappear when we grow up. Packing My Life Into a Backpack As I got closer, I saw my sisters—Kendra, Farah, and my baby sister Marissa—being placed into the back seat of a truck. We didn’t even own a vehicle at that time, so I didn’t know who it belonged to. I walked up and asked, “Mom, what’s going on? Where are we going?” She was stressed. Anxious. She looked at me and said, “Son, go inside. Pack your bag. Hurry.” So I did. Inside, I packed my most prized possessions—my Ninja Turtles toys—into my little backpack. I zipped it up, ran outside, tossed it in the truck, and climbed into the back seat. Off we went. I thought it was a medical trip. Many First Nations families rely on medical taxis to get to appointments in the city. On the drive, I remember hoping we’d stop at my favorite store—the one every kid loves and every parent dreads. Walmart. But we drove right past it. When a Room Becomes Home Instead, we pulled up to a building with fluorescent lights. Inside was a small room. A bed on the floor. Another bed on the floor. Five of us squeezed into that space. We stacked our garbage bags and boxes in the corner and suddenly, that room became home. Then another room. Then another city. Then another city. Days turned into weeks. And eventually, I started wondering, When do we go home? We never did. Later in life, I learned the truth. These were women’s shelters. Interval houses. Places for single mothers with nowhere else to go. The Power of One Act of Love Everything changed with one phone call from a payphone—remember those? My mom called my grandmother, my kokum. Without hesitation, my kokum said, “Come live with me.” We packed up again and drove back to the reserve. My kokum lived in a small one-bedroom house. When we arrived, she pointed to the back of the couch and said, “Put your belongings there.” Her living room became our bedroom. We slept on the couch. On the floor. My mom slept nearby. And for several months, that living room was home. But more than that—it was safety. My kokum became my guide. My teacher. A knowledge keeper. An elder who grounded me in love, culture, and belonging. Why I Share This Story I share this story not for sympathy—but for perspective. Because the courage my mother showed that day planted a seed. Because the love my kokum showed nurtured it. And because those early experiences taught me something powerful: One decision can change generations. If you’re in a place right now where life feels uncertain… If you’re standing at a crossroads… If you’re being asked to make a hard, uncomfortable choice… Know this: planting a new seed is never easy—but it might be the very thing that changes everything.