Dharma talk by Nomon Tim Burnett at Fall Sesshin скачать в хорошем качестве

Dharma talk by Nomon Tim Burnett at Fall Sesshin

Here’s a practice I’m working with - and I guess I have been for decades but it feels more clear lately: don’t control. Notice when your opinions and preferences spring forth and constellate into a plan. Into the desire to exert control.And let it go. Even in your mind, those things you’re not planning to say out loud. Those thoughts of how it should or shouldn’t be, or often more powerful, the thoughts of how she or he should or shouldn’t be. Notice those and let them go. This is an extra rich practice when you’re in a leadership position and it is appropriate to give people some feedback. Check in with your heart: is this a helpful suggestion to support this person and the sesshin, or am I drifting into being controlling? For those of us more fully protected by the practice of silence the practice on non-control is equally rich though. Watch your mind and see how often the desire to control something comes up. And include yourself. Wanting to control how you feel, how much you sleep, all kinds of things. Of course make wise choices but just like how you might give wise, kind, simple feedback to another. “Ah dearest me, it’s bed time, you might want to focus on breathing, it’s not the time to figure that out just now.” Oh and watch this at the notes station too: is this note an attempt to control? Maybe I don’t need to write it after all. One of the many gifts of sesshin is that letting go of control is totally possible and safe here. You’ll have food to eat, a place to sleep, and stuff to do all day without any planning or executing or controlling of your own.