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Blended Family Marriage Issues | Paul Friedman

Are you having blended family marriage issues that happen way too often? Paul Friedman has a solution to this. I'm going to try and give you some insight. I don't know that I could solve all your problems here but I can perhaps help you get on the right track. So it's very complicated when you bring two families together and you can't have this universal thing that says, "Well, if you just do this," because there are so many variables like if you have teenage girls in the mix, Oh my God! They are so disruptive no matter what. They are disruptive if they're saints, they're disruptive, teenage girls are a problem. Teenage boy is not so big a deal. Little children, if you have little ones then it becomes a question of territorialism. Who's in charge of deciding how they get disciplined and it's very complicated. It's very difficult because men are men, and women are women and most men and most women have no idea about how to raise children properly. There's so much contradictory information out there and I can't recommend a good book. I don't think there is one. Look at how the kids are coming out now -- they're all crazy and they have been right along. We can't go back to pre-World War II so it's difficult no matter what. But there is something you should keep in mind and this is very important and that is that when you get married I don't care how many children are on either side. I don't care about the complexity of the relationship that one spouse or the other has with their ex -- none of that matters. Why? Because when you chose to get married you drew a circle together created a bubble together that enclosed only two of you. You didn't get married to the kids. He or she didn't get married to your kids. No family. There's this inner circle, the innermost circle I call it the sacred space of marriage where it's just two of you. Now the problem is coming not with the complexities but with your inability to communicate. You don't know where the boundaries should be. There's so much conflicting advice about where it should be. When all of that is solvable when your marriage itself is properly run and that's the key. Remember your marriage is just two of you. Remember that the two of you should be experiencing ever-increasing happiness every single day and if you're not you're not doing things correctly. That's that simple. Let's use an analogy. You have a car and you're driving down the road and it's going There's something wrong. A car isn't supposed to do that. A car is supposed to smoothly drive down the road. A marriage is supposed to be producing ever-increasing happiness. You're supposed to be experiencing ever-increasing love. Those are the two things that a marriage supposed to produce. Ever-increasing happiness and ever-increasing love and if it's not then all the peripheral stuff aren't going to function well either and that's what's really going wrong. It's not about teenage daughters. It's not about the defensive or obstinate sons. It's not about them not getting along with you or each other. It's about you two not having your marriage on track. What's the solution? My discoveries are very different than what you'll find in the psychological world. I'm different. I was a divorce mediator and I realized "Wow, no one knows what they're doing with marriage." I did research. I've created systems. I've created the foundation that everyone needs to have an amazing marriage, an amazing marriage. Nothing else should do. Who will tell you that? I'm telling you that because it's my experience both individually but also we've been doing this for about 20 years helping couples get there by relying on basic principles including the one of the sacred space of marriage, about the principle that you should be producing increasing marriage happiness. You should be increasing love. Those are principles. There are other principles obviously of course and you need to learn them. So the solution for you right now, you have two solutions. It really depends on the state of your marriage. If your marriage is just starting to go okay, read one of my books. You'll learn so much. Read it to each other. Get one of the books. Get Breaking the Cycle. Read to each other every night. You'll both will be going, "Uh-huh. Oh my God! I didn't know that. Wow, wow, wow," and your marriage will dramatically change. If your marriage is starting to slide towards divorce don't save money. Get the courses either get the course for men if you're the husband or get the course for women if you're the wife or show this to each other, this video. Maybe you could both get the course but don't push it on each other. If just one of you does it's probably enough and those are the two solutions. Key -- your marriage is the most important component. It's the only important component in this mix. Watch the video for more. #marriageproblems #marriageissues #wifeandhusbandproblems #blendedfamily #maritalproblems #frustrated