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2020.10.09 有劲365 | 如何不掉入恶意批评的陷阱？：Dr. Nthabiseng Legoete

如何不掉入恶意批评的陷阱？ 今日关键词: 分辨批评的动机 拒绝没有益处的批评 是一个循序渐进的学习过程 今日金句: 正直的言语力量何其大！ 但你们责备是责备什么呢？ 今日挑战: 反思一下最近让你不舒服的批评  （需要他人对你的认可，才是最大恶意批评的陷阱） 海沃塔问题: 你如何处理他人对你的批评？为什么？ 你该如何辨别对你没有益处的批评？ 你该如何接受对你有帮助的批评？ ******************************** 欢迎分享 做完今日挑战后的感受或见证！ ******************************** 《领受批评的智慧》 讲员：Dr. Nthabiseng Legoete 萨本森·勒特 Quali Health创始人、CEO 如何辨别各种不同的批评？哪一种批评是可以激励我的？ So how was able to discern between the different types of criticism, was really to judge what it inspired me to do? 如果这个批评可以激励我，鉴察我的工作模式，帮助我改进，就是有建设性的；当批评使我失去动力，使我感觉自己很糟糕，那就不是建设性的。 So if it was criticism that inspired me to look at the model again and see what I can refine, that was constructive. If it was criticism that paralyzed me and made me feel bad about myself, it wasn't constructive. 过去，人们认为批评都是有益的，但实际上不是。 And at times we think that all criticism is great, right? But it isn't. 如果批评让你失去动力——不作为、不前进，不追求你的愿景、目标、意义——那你就不需要接受它，因为你承担不起。 If it paralyzes you into inaction, it is not something that you can afford to internalize, because you cannot afford to not do anything and to not move towards your vision and your focus.  当然，接受批评不是你天生就会的。 And it didn't happen automatically. 以前我接受过很多批评，但我的内心非常受伤。过了几周，我发现我失去了动力，很沮丧。这是没有益处的，因为如果这种批评能改变什么，它所推动的只是让我们放弃。 So I initially took a lot of criticisms into heart and internalized it. But I found out two to three weeks later when I was feeling paralysed, when I was depressed that. This is not helpful. Because if anything, all it was pushing me towards, was maybe we can just close shop. 试想一下这样接受批评的后果，我们会停止向病危的人提供医疗服务。这就与我们的目标背道而驰了。 But guess what happens when you do that, we stop providing health care to people who really need it. And that was never the goal. 所以，辨别及接受批评是循序渐进的过程，需要对自己温柔一点，用自己舒服的方式，把它当作一个学习的过程。 So it's a gradual process. And I guess it comes with being kind to yourself and being gentle with yourself and letting it be a learning curve.