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Why Does My Wife Not Want Me Sexually? | Paul Friedman

Are you having problems with your wife that she not want you sexually? Watch Paul gives you helpful tips so you could save your marriage. I'm going to try to give you some insight into this subject. Hopefully, you'll be able to extract what you need so you can manage your own program if you will. But of course, it's always useful to use one of my books or the course for men but here's what's going on. Let's take the macrocosmic viewpoint first because that is so distorted in our society. In our society, marriage is a material relationship. It's legal, there are expectations on both sides. It's more like a business partnership than marriage and a component of those marriages is sex. Not making love but sex and we have all at one time or another bought into sex being a measure of our relationship. If the sex is good our relationship is good, and it totally misses the point because we are not material beings. Sex -- if you really understand sex for what it is it's an aspect of biology and its purpose is procreation to create more human beings and it's a drive that we have literally in every cell of our body. And you may remember that from your biology class when you were a kid that the drive to survive includes fight or flight when there's danger, taking advantage of opportunities that may come along, to eat, find shelter and that kind of thing and sex. Procreation, but we are more than that. We have a body but we're not the body and this isn't going to be a religious class. I'm not going to talk to you about Adam and Eve and Noah but we are souls and the proof of that is that we have an awareness of love, real love. If you have kids and you've seen your kids sleeping and your heart just opens up. That's the true experience of love or at weddings. When you go to a wedding there's always that moment when you can feel that love. It's so tangible and yet western psychologists which basically rule how we define things they call that an abstract thought, an abstract idea, an emotion. They call it an emotion which it's not really an emotion. It's much deeper than that and that's the soul and feeling that love is why we get married. So, what happens is there's a lot of confusion in marriage and women are very sensitive. They're very different than men and they're very sensitive to their space and to their partner's place with them. And usually, usually not all the time but usually, women who reject their husband's advances do so for some of the most simple reasons. Some of those reasons, the number one reason is that the wife feels taken for granted and you have to understand for her you're a man so you buy into this sex thing much more than she does. Women are naturally sexual, making love. It's different for them. They don't have sex unless they've been trained to and they try to because they are trained to even from TV shows and movies. But what really is dictating them and there's a cross-current is they want to make love. They want to use sexuality only for the expression of love and loyalty from soul to soul but their husbands which may be the case with you because this is the biggest problem is men are not discriminate in how they use their power of protection and they turn that power of protection on their wife. Men are much stronger than women physiologically. So when a man is stern with his wife or raises his voice or gives her a look -- it's like cutting her off beneath the knees. It's scaring her and she may not know that. But inwardly, she will react that way so that's the biggest problem. In our course for men, it's the very first thing I address that as a man you have an obligation. It's a sub-subconscious pact that you have with your wife that you will take care of her, you're her bodyguard. Well, you raise your voice once it takes a long time for her to recover and it could be she's afraid of you. She's certainly not feeling loving towards you because you, her protector are dominating her not protecting her so that's a big one. Another reason may be that you just take her for granted. And so the truth is that for a woman it's very important that she's able to communicate, the way she communicates and this is for a woman foreplay is a constant. You want her to feel loving towards you. You want her to open up towards you. She's not giving you something. She wants to connect with you and you're here. It's a totally different juxtaposition because we've been trained that sex is something she gives you but that's not the case. Sex is a vehicle to communicate love and loyalty. Then there are the reasons that we hear all the time, "My husband doesn't bathe. My husband wants to do his business and be done. Wham, bam! Thank you, Ma'am. My husband is insensitive to my needs. My husband doesn't take his time. He's not aware of me." All of these things come into play. Watch the video for more. #marriageproblems #marriagecounseling #frustrated #maritalproblems #marriageissues #wifeandhusbandproblems