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Why You Will (or Won’t) Break Up | The Four Horsemen of Communication

Why do some relationships fall apart? In this video, we explore the Four Horsemen of Communication: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, and the antidotes that can help couples build connection and understanding during conflict. Drawing from the Gottman Method, psychology, and real-life experience, we break down how these destructive communication patterns impact trust and intimacy. Through roleplay examples, we show how each of the Four Horsemen might appear in everyday relationships and then demonstrate how to apply the antidotes effectively. Featuring Julia Giacomin, PsyD graduate student and diagnostic extern at CORE (Center of Relational Empowerment), this conversation blends practical tools with reflection about what helps relationships thrive. Whether you’re in a relationship or simply want to understand yourself and others better, this video offers insight into what makes love last, and what can make it fall apart. #FourHorsemenOfCommunication #GottmanMethod #RelationshipPsychology #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #ConflictResolution #LoveAndPsychology #BreakupPsychology #MarriageAdvice #TherapyEducation #RelationshipTips #RelationshipPatterns #PsychologyExplained #PsychologistReact 00:00 Introduction 00:55 Historical Context: Drs. Julie and John Gottman 01:30 The Four Horsemen of Communication 01:44 Criticism 02:48 Contempt – The Most Harmful 04:15 Defensiveness 05:45 Stonewalling 07:07 Cultural Factors 07:30 The Antidotes to the Four Horsemen 07:43 Complaint (Antidote to Criticism) 11:00 Appreciate and Respect (Antidote to Contempt) 12:15 Taking Responsibility (Antidote to Defensiveness) 12:55 Self-soothing (Antidote to Stonewalling) 14:00 Roleplay 1: Using the Four Horsemen in Conflict 16:05 Roleplay 2: Four Horsemen with the Antidotes 18:00 Roleplay 3: Using the Antidotes in Conflict 19:40 Final Discussion 22:30 Caveat: Antidotes in an Abusive Relationship 24:15 Conclusion Disclaimer This video is for educational purposes only. It does not constitute therapy or clinical advice, and does not establish a professional relationship. The information shared reflects professional opinion and is offered in good faith, but it does not represent the full truth of any topic. Psychology is an evolving field, and other professionals may have different perspectives. If you are in need of emergency support, please call or text 988 (the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S.), dial 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. If you are outside the U.S., please look up the local crisis hotline number available in your country. Fair Use Disclaimer: This video discusses concepts from the Gottman Method for educational and commentary purposes. All rights to original materials belong to the Gottman Institute. This content is shared under the fair use provisions of Section 107 of the U.S. Copyright Act (1976).