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Movies lie to us about love

Cinema is a crucial part of our culture, shaping us and influencing how we perceive the world around us. And almost every movie has a love story… Which often seems downright strange. Frequently, movies present abuse, manipulation, stalking, emotional rollercoasters, and other hallmarks of unhealthy relationships as "true love." In today’s video, we’ll discuss the "red flags" that movies package as love. We’ll explore this through a variety of classic films: *Bridget Jones’s Diary*, *Pretty Woman*, *You’ve Got Mail*, *Serendipity*, *How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days*, *Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears*, *Hitch*, and many others. Enjoy the video! Don’t forget to subscribe, like, leave a comment, and share it—it would mean the world to me ❤️ 00:00 Films set us very unrealistic standards for love 01:11 Movies under the guise of ‘true love’ give us ab;yuse, manipulation, stal;king, emotional swings, and other red flags. What is love in films? 02:41 Love is not the point. Cinema broadcasts the idea that humans are incomplete on their own and we all need a partner to be worth something. ‘Moscow Doesn't Believe in Tears.’ ‘Bridget Jones's Diary.’ 05:33 Love is not about sta;lking and conquest. The protagonists of romcoms often track down and catch up with each other, but this is presented as a struggle for ‘true love’ and a desperate romantic move. ‘Intuition. ‘How to get rid of a guy in 10 days.’ 11:12 Often the main character tells the protagonist that she doesn't want to get into a relationship with him, but he pursues her anyway and they're happy at the end. And that's a very bad example. My story 13:00 Love is not about harassment. In almost every film, you have to put a little bit of pressure on a woman to tempt her into intimacy. ‘No means yes.’ And that's a terrible example too. ‘The Devil Wears Prada.’ ‘Bridget Jones's Diary. 16:13 Love is not an emotional swing. Drama is necessarily a prerequisite for ‘true love.’ When you're in constant pain, when you get together and break up every 10 minutes of timing, that's not a dysfunctional relationship, that's love. ‘When Harry Met Sally.’ ‘How to get rid of a guy in 10 days.’ 18:00 In true love, it doesn't have to be bad all the time. My story. 19:11 Love is not mani;pulation. In almost all romcoms, the main characters need to manipulate, underhandedly, cunningly, slyly, slyly, and conceal each other in order to be together. ‘You've got mail.’ ‘Rules of engagement: The Hitch method.’ 21:50 What I think about the concept of ‘nice guys are no good, girls like assholes’ (nothing good). 22:46 There is no such thing as manipulation and lying ‘for the good’, and you can't build a strong relationship on that. 23:30 Love is not necessarily when a man gets a woman. In almost all films, books, songs, and pop culture in general, the man gets the woman, and very rarely the other way around. It's terribly dumb for everyone. Men don't have to achieve and women don't have to wait. You can do it differently 25:28 Love isn't just for conventionally beautiful people. Absolutely all the main (and often minor) characters in films are unbelievably beautiful people with model looks. Which creates a stereotype in our heads that if we don't look like that, we don't deserve love. Which, of course, is not true 28:02 Love is not a candy-buquet period. What the films show is not a relationship or love. It is a current;sic and abu;sive crush that is passed off to us as ‘true love’. That's why we have crises in our relationships 31:36 What are the dangers of this representation of love in pop culture? There are 2 aspects: 1. it creates your inflated expectations of romance and courtship. Ordinary human romantic gestures don't seem impressive anymore 32:50 2. Cinema teaches us to ignore red flags in relationships. We are shown from the screen that clashing, emotional swings and violence are romantic. And these behaviours in real life seem that way to us too 34:48 The cinema and the ‘no one understands him, I can fix him’ plot is also to blame for us liking emotionally closed-minded assh;ees. 35:27 Bottom line: everything that pop culture shows us as ‘true love’ is actually a painful and dramatic teenage crush.