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How EMDR helps treat premature ejaculation

Therapist Jason Dean discusses the benefits of EMDR therapy for male sexual dysfunction, including premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. It helps resolve bad experiences, anxiety and fears. Three things that men struggling with PE or ED will know something about. If you've struggled to stay erect or you keep coming a bit too soon - or the opposite and it takes you ages to get there - then you know how the expectation sets in: that it'll happen again next time and then it does. We accumulate all these memories of 'us being rubbish at intercourse'. So we want to get over this - and not let our past keep impacting our sexual satisfaction. And this is where EMDR comes in useful. Because as a therapist, if I just say "ok try to forget about all that, let's focus on relaxation and how confident you can feel..." that might seem a bit superficial. We don't want to dwell on the memory too much and make it more of a thing. But we want to do something to shift it, to file it away as a normal memory. We can do this with EMDR. What does this look like? You'll sit with the machine in front of you, so you can comfortably watch the light move back and forth, you can follow it with your eyes. And you'll hold a pulsator in each hand and it pulsates in sync with the light. But you don't just sit there watching the lights. We have a brief conversation about what happened, how that anxiety and dread feels, the kind of things it has you telling yourself. And now and again, you'll picture all this while watching the lights. We'll gradually shift to 'what would be a more helpful way to talk to yourself about sex, about intercourse with your partner...?'. Consider that and watch the lights. Because there's something about bilateral stimulation, engaging both sides of the brain, that helps us reprocess memories. We're accessing it, experiencing it in a very different way to worrying or stressing over what happened. And the amygdala - that part of your brain that looks out for bad things happening again - seems to get the message. 'Oh this is different, maybe I can stop pattern-matching to the past every time I have intercourse'. I explain this with an illustrative client case study. Quite how this works is the subject of much debate. There's nothing magic about the lights or the pulsing, but those side-to-side eye movements have a relaxing and absorbing effect - helping the reprocessing to happen. The effectiveness of EMDR is backed up by research and it's recognised by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence and the World Health Organisation as a treatment for trauma. Research into EMDR for less traumatic conditions is well summarised here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti... Links for finding an EMDR therapist: https://www.counselling-directory.org... https://emdrassociation.org.uk/ https://www.emdria.org/ Find out more about my practical self-help course for men: https://lastinglongerlab.com/self-hel... #emdrtherapy #menshealth Lasting Longer Lab and the information provided by Jason Dean are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or sexual health conditions. Although Jason Dean is a psychotherapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your doctor before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health.