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Your Teen Doesn't Need to Be Like You to Be Close to You

How to stay connected to your teen when they’re nothing like you expected, wanted, or imagined. Maybe they don’t share your hobbies. Maybe they don’t learn the way you did. Maybe they’re introverted and you’re social… Creative and you’re logical… Athletic and you’re not—or the other way around. No matter the difference, you can still have a strong relationship. And today, I’ll give you the tools to make that happen. Let’s be honest. We all carry around an invisible image of the kind of person our child will become. And when our teen grows into someone else. even if it’s not “wrong” it can feel like a loss. When parents resist who their teen is becoming, teens often react in three ways: They shut down. Stop talking. Stop sharing. Stop letting you in. They push harder into their identity. Not to rebel, but to protect themselves. Connection requires acceptance. Not agreement. Acceptance. Here are the tools that change everything: 1. Choose Curiosity Over Control “Why are they like this?” Ask: “What is this showing me about who they’re becoming?” 2. Spend Time in Their World, Not Just Yours Even if it’s not your interest, show up. Sit with them while they sketch. 3. Stop Comparing Them to Yourself (or Their Siblings) Say this to yourself often: “Different is not wrong. Different is not failure. Different is not disrespect.” Your teen isn’t supposed to be your clone. They’re supposed to be who they are. 4. Validate Their Personality Some parents unknowingly send signals like: “Why aren’t you more outgoing?” “Why can’t you be more chill?” “I just don’t understand why you’re like this.” These statements hurt more than parents realize. Try saying instead: “I see that this is who you are—and I appreciate it.” “I love the way you see the world differently.” “You don’t have to be like me. You just have to be you.” Say This One Line Often: “You don’t need to be like me for me to be close to you.” This sentence softens the walls immediately. Your teen doesn’t need you to be just like them. They need you to be someone who accepts them. Differences don’t weaken connection Misunderstanding does. When you learn to celebrate who they truly are, not who you expected them to be, your relationship becomes stronger, safer, and more authentic. And that’s what teens want more than anything: to be seen, known, and accepted by the people who matter most. If this video helped you think differently about your relationship with your teen, please like this video, subscribe, and share it with another parent who needs this message. You’ve got this, and your teen is lucky to have a parent who cares this much. https://www.thewaveofwisdom.com Connection over Correction FREE DOWNLOADABLE WORKBOOK for parents https://tr.ee/VnkP2zgph0