Wedding Night Female Perspective Dr Muhammad Haris Burki 03334537079 Urdu Hindi скачать в хорошем качестве

Wedding Night Female Perspective Dr Muhammad Haris Burki 03334537079 Urdu Hindi

10 things every bride should know before (and about!) her wedding night 1. Take it slow It’s been a long tiring journey, planning for your wedding. The running around, the planning, the actual wedding day, it will all take a toll on you and your beloved – mentally, emotionally and physically. By the end of your wedding day, you’ll be tired though chances are you might not even feel it (that adrenaline thing can lie!) My husband and I knew we were tired. Plus I was recovering from chicken pox, so my tiredness was on the double. Our plan for the honeymoon night was dinner, lots of cuddles, massage, plenty of rest and sleep. But things didn’t’ go according to plan! The saving grace was that we had talked about slowing down, so we were able to extend a lot of grace to ourselves later. “Slowing down” is easy to say, but not so easy to follow through because you feel like you’ve been waiting forever! So you’ll need to discuss with your husband-to-be and be on the same page. Don’t get into intimate details but have a rough idea how the evening will play out. For example, a typical Kenyan wedding ceremony might last the whole day. Afterward, a couple will have a long drive – or flight – to their honeymoon destination. There’s only so much you can do after being awake and active for almost twenty-four hours. There’s no hard and fast rule but if you can plan to ease into intimacy, the better the evening/night will be. 2. You won’t know everything You might have read that and thought “I have some sexual experience, you know.” Well, here’s a piece of truth you want to chew on; sex within marriage is entirely different from sex outside of wedlock. Past sexual experience will not make you a “pro” on your wedding night. If anything you have a lot to unlearn and lots to learn (See # 3) Also on this first night, you’ll want to err on the side of less “wow”. Most grooms want to wow their brides on the wedding night; many brides want the night to be memorable and intimate and score a 10 out of 10. I am not trying to be a wet blanket because there’s nothing wrong with planning to wow each other. But sometimes super high expectations can set you up for serious disappointment when things don’t go according to plan. The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as a New Bride It’s so much easier when you come to your wedding night wearing a learner’s hat. Because learners don’t have anything to lose but everything to gain. So prepare to become a student of your spouse, not just on the wedding night, but for the rest of your married life. 3. Shut the doors to your past If you have a sexual past, any baggage, and works of the flesh, you’ll need shut that door and leave the past in the past. Begin to ask God to do a deep work in you now, to change you and transform you. I found this excellent podcast, and you might want to listen in if you are struggling or have ever wondered about it. (it’s just 6 minutes long) Or maybe you come from the other side of the camp- you feel completely clueless about a wedding night cos you are a virgin. It’s easy to feel clumsy and foolish, easy to begin to think that you’ll never learn anything. There’s a little truth in there; you will always be learning something – better get comfy in that student seat! But the whole truth is that you have followed God’s design and plan for marriage. You are at the perfect place. He will help you; you will learn. No matter what camp you fall under, don’t listen to the lies of the enemy who wants to discourage you. Choose to fall in love with God’s truth. Allow His word be a lamp to your feet and a light for your marriage path. 4. It might be awkwaaard I had no idea that one can kiss and breath at the same time! So I held my breath on the wedding night..and almost fainted! Okay, I did not faint, but my breathless thereafter that was not merely a result of… er.. you know. So your delicate lingerie might snap, you might fall off the bed, you might dislike the feel of lubricant, you might gawk, feel embarrassed till your toes curl. (Hopefully not all of them in the same night!) Here’s something to remember – making love is not a clean, precise process. It’s not like the movies! Making love can be awkward, messy and hilarious! Doing it for the first time can be twice as awkward, twice as messy and twice as hilarious! . . .