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Attachment: How to Regrow Your Velcro | Return to Heart Ep. 06

We’re made for attachment—but many of us learned to survive by not attaching. Jeff and Phil explore how early abandonment, toxic shame, and fear train us to confuse intensity for intimacy, and what it looks like to regrow our “Velcro” in real relationships. You’ll hear a son who stands his ground, friends who travel to grieve with—and why the four S’s (seen, soothed, safe, secure) matter so much. From marriage and parenting to friendship and faith, this conversation names the risk of staying present, the comfort of being known, and the long, grace-filled work of becoming attachable again. Includes a practical journaling exercise to map your primary attachment figures and where you long to reconnect. ✨ What you’ll hear in this episode: • Why we mistake intensity for intimacy—and how to tell the difference • The “Velcro” metaphor: sliding off vs. sticking, and learning to stick again • A live picture of secure attachment in conflict (“I’m staying”) • The four S’s of secure attachment: seen, soothed, safe, secure • Friends who practice with-ness in grief • A simple exercise to begin re-attaching where it matters most 🔔 Subscribe for more conversations about what matters most. 0:00 – Why attachment matters now 03:52 – Regrowing Velcro 10:58 – Staying in conflict 22:48 – Practicing with-ness 26:08 – “Good enough” is good enough 36:12 – Let experience catch up 39:20 – Try this exercise Tin Man provides coaching, mentoring, consulting, and offers guidance to those who want to recover the life they've lost and discover the life they desire, by learning to live from the heart. Learn More: www.tinman.life