Cathy Vartuli talks about love, sex and family in life right now with The Open Photo Project скачать в хорошем качестве

Cathy Vartuli talks about love, sex and family in life right now with The Open Photo Project

More at: http://theopenphotoproject.com/tagged... Cathy: I love where I’ve come to in my life. I consider myself queer. I don’t care what someone has in their pants and that gives me a lot of freedom just to be with people as they are. I really care about deep relationships where we can share what’s true for us and be honest and open without having to kind of guard ourselves or feel ashamed. That kind of connection knowing that we can show up for each other is really important to me and that’s one reason I do the intimacy coaching is because I want to help other people have that in their lives. I think so many people are living these lives of “quiet desperation” where they’re bored but they don’t know how to get un-bored. They don’t know how to be real with people. They’re pretending to be what they think other people want them to be, but they never feel real and they don’t feel love for themselves, and that really hurts their self esteem, and they also don’t feel like life just isn’t that exciting. When you start getting real, it just starts getting really juicy. Even with people you might not be desperately in love with. I always look for people who are really smart because I’m a snob that way. That’s something that turns me on. The lovers I have right now are mostly men. It just happened. That’s how it’s happened right now. I like the freedom. They have other partners. I think it’s wonderful when you find someone you want to invest that way, where you want to spend all your time with them and build a household together. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I haven’t met anyone I want that with right now. I love the freedom of like, “hey, are you free next week? Let’s get together and have and have a really delightful, connected time,” and know that I’m not responsible for meeting all their needs or helping them move house. You can be there for a friend but you’re not the only support for that. That just feels really rich and fun right now because I have a lot going on in my life. Interviewer: Do you have, in terms of family, sometimes what I’m curious to hear about is chosen family, created family, can you talk a little bit about that? Cathy: I do. My best friend in the whole world is Rick Oaks, and he wouldn’t mind being named on this. Interviewer: O.K. Cathy: He and I are very romantic. People see us together and they’re like, “are you guys married?” We’re not sexual, we just have this deep loving relationship that we’re just buddies and very sweet to each other. I have some friends that are very, very dear to me, that you walk in front of a bus, donate a kidney for. They might not want to be named. My family of origin, I have some of them that I’m really close to and I share some of the work I do, but most of them are living a different kind of life where this isn’t really what they’re looking at. I don’t think they see that. Even if I send them a blog post they just don’t read it.