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You Want Change — But You Don’t Want to Change

“You have to break the pattern. And you have to hug the cactus and be comfortable in your ugliness.” Everyone says they want change — better relationships, better habits, a better life. But when it’s time to actually change yourself, that’s where the resistance begins. It’s easier to blame the world, your parents, your trauma, your ex, your circumstances. It’s easier to feel right than to do the work. In this episode of Raw and Real, we confront the uncomfortable truth behind victimhood, empowerment culture, and learned helplessness. This is not about invalidating pain or denying that injustice exists. It’s about asking a harder question: at what point does your story stop helping you and start trapping you? We talk about why victimhood can feel addictive, how social groups reward blame, and how echo chambers reinforce the idea that you are always right and someone else is always wrong. We unpack the psychology of learned helplessness and why people stay stuck even when the door is open. Most importantly, we draw the line between real empathy and enabling — because compassion without accountability keeps people small. The world is not fair. It never has been. The question is not whether you were wronged. The question is what you are going to do now. Breaking the pattern requires looking at yourself without filters. It means accepting that you are capable of good and bad, strength and weakness, wisdom and self-sabotage. It means “hugging the cactus” — facing the parts of yourself you don’t like — without living there forever. Real empowerment is not about collecting sympathy or social points. It is about ownership. It is about responsibility. It is about choosing to grow even when it’s uncomfortable. So ask yourself honestly: do you really want change, or do you just want to feel justified?