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It’s not always the most wonderful time of the year. Subscribe to our channel and turn on notifications (🔔) so you don't miss any videos: http://goo.gl/0bsAjO Every December, we’re told to be merry and stay positive. But a lot of us don’t feel that way. And when we don’t, the pressure to be happy makes everything worse. Sadness feels like failure. Grief feels like a personal mistake. Depression becomes something to hide. But what if dark moods aren’t problems to fix? What if they’re part of being human? Today’s guest is philosopher Mariana Alessandri, author of Night Vision, a book about how to honor the emotions we usually try to outrun. It’s not a celebration of sadness, but Alessandri instead challenges the culture of toxic positivity and the idea that happiness is something we’re supposed to choose on command. Sean and Mariana talk about why Americans are addicted to the light, why “cheering people up” often backfires, how Stoicism shaped our emotional habits, and what it looks like to sit with grief instead of shaming ourselves for feeling it. Host: Sean Illing (@SeanIlling) Guest: Mariana Alessandri (@mariana.alessandri), associate professor of philosophy at the University of Texas-Rio Grande Valley and author of Night Vision: Seeing Ourselves Through Dark Moods. If you enjoy our reporting and want to hear more from Vox journalists, sign up for our Patreon at patreon.com/vox. Each month, our members get access to exclusive videos, livestreams, ad-free podcasts and chats with our newsroom. 00:00 Intro 11:08 Anger toward your kids and self-blame 14:20 Why anger masks other feelings 15:56 Self-help books don't help us 20:24 Why Stoicism is seductive 23:49 Disconnecting feeling from action 27:58 We need to approach grief differently 33:24 We don't need to "keep it together" 36:34 Practice death in advance 43:59 Can we honor our depression and seek to transcend it? 47:20 Parenting children through dark moods Vox.com is a news website that helps you cut through the noise and understand what's really driving the events in the headlines. Check out http://www.vox.com. Watch our full video catalog: http://goo.gl/IZONyE Follow Vox on TikTok:   / voxdotcom   Check out our articles: https://www.vox.com/ Listen to our podcasts: https://www.vox.com/podcasts