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Why Honest Communication Is Hard (and How to Get Better at It!)

Are you really ready to open your relationship? Take the quiz: https://www.jolihamilton.com/quiz Discover the 5 secrets to smart open relationships: https://www.jolihamilton.com/salon Secrets, privacy, and the journey to authentic relationships can be a complex terrain to navigate. When one partner keeps secrets—whether consciously or unconsciously—it creates ripples that affect trust, consent, and the very foundation of connection. But what happens when those secrets aren't just kept from partners, but from oneself? This episode dives deep into the challenging work of moving from fragmented realities to integrated selfhood. Many of us have experienced moments where something feels "off" in a relationship, but we can't quite put our finger on it. When inconsistencies emerge between what's said and what's done, trust begins to erode. But the path back to trust isn't impossible—it just requires dedicated, consistent work and a willingness to face uncomfortable truths about ourselves. In this episode, we talk about: — The critical difference between secrecy and privacy in relationships — How keeping secrets from ourselves can be just as harmful as keeping them from partners — The concept of "bifurcated monogamy" and how people can create separate, incompatible realities — Why writing things down can be a powerful tool for those who unconsciously fragment their experiences — How trauma responses can lead to secret-keeping behaviors without conscious awareness — The relationship between autonomy and responsibility — Why consent requires transparency and ongoing information-sharing, especially in interdependent relationships — The importance of meta-conversations about how we communicate across partnerships — How power differentials can impact one's ability to truly consent in relationships — The long, non-linear journey of rebuilding trust after patterns of secrecy — Why dismantling defensiveness is a crucial step in addressing patterns of secrecy — How integration and differentiation work together to create authentic selfhood Resources mentioned in this episode: — Our episode on dismantling defensiveness https://creators.spotify.com/pod/prof... — Our episode on weasel words https://creators.spotify.com/pod/prof... Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! ⁠Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here⁠: https://www.jolihamilton.com/ama Get the support you NEED to have the open relationship you WANT in my year-long group program, The Year of Opening®. Go here now: https://www.jolihamilton.com/YOO Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠⁠Blue Dot Sessions (https://app.sessions.blue/browse/trac...) Episode 229 Replay – Shadow Work in Relationships: What We Keep From Ourselves – of the Playing With Fire Podcast with hosts Dr. Joli Hamilton & Ken Hamilton