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The Friendships That Hold Us When Life Falls Apart: What Support Looks Like

Friendship gets tested in crisis, and sometimes the hardest grief isn’t just what happened, it’s what gets revealed about who can actually stay with you. In this episode of Inner Compass Podcast, Vanessa Bennett, LMFT is joined by her close friend Lena to talk about friendship through trauma after both of them lost their homes in the LA fires. This isn’t just about the fire, it’s about what support really looks like when your world falls apart, how being witnessed without being fixed can feel like an exhale, and why grief can include grieving friendships that didn’t show up the way you needed. They talk about: • Adult friendship and why it gets harder with work, parenting, and life logistics • How crisis reveals cracks (and unexpected depth) in relationships • Receiving help when you’re used to overfunctioning and “being fine” • What’s actually helpful: practical support, presence, and letting someone be in pain without rushing it • What’s often unhelpful: invasive questions, rushing the timeline, grief “fixing,” and subtle transactional energy • The new standard after trauma: what you can and can’t unknow about who shows up • Capacity vs desire, and the ongoing practice of depersonalizing what people can’t (or won’t) give • How to maintain friendship when the container changes (distance, seasons, different roles) Questions to sit with: • Who are your people when things get hard, and do they know they’re your people? • Where are you avoiding honest conversations because you’re afraid of what they might reveal? • What kind of support do you actually need, not what you think you “should” need? • What friendships are asking for a new container, and what effort would keep them alive? For educational purposes only. This isn’t therapy. If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com. Additional Resources Explore: https://vanessabennett.com/ Book: https://www.vanessabennett.com/the-mo... Community: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-... Training: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-... Connect with Inner Compass Follow on   / inner_compass_co   Connect with Vanessa Bennett: Follow on   / vanessasbennett   Follow on   / itsvanessabennett   Learn more on https://substack.com/@itsvanessabennett Connect with Vanessa Bennett on   / itsvanessabennett