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Gay Therapist’s Guide to Grindr

If you’re a gay man, you’re likely on a hook-up app like Grindr or Scruff. While they are extremely popular, many guys suggest that they have a love/hate relationship with these apps. On the one hand, they love the opportunity for convenient s3x. On the other, they feel like apps are a huge waste of time and effort. With the right perspective, I think apps can be great. Here’s how: Grindr is not your Personal Matchmaker. I often hear people complain that they can’t find what they’re looking for on hookup apps. The reality is that apps are what you make of them. The app isn’t serving you a group of men curated to your specific needs and desires at that moment. It’s just showing you who is close by. If the majority of those men are looking for a hookup, and you’re looking for a serious relationship, don’t blame the app. It’s your job to make the most of what’s being offered to you. Apps are what you make of them. If you want to app to cater to you, you’re going to be disappointed. You Will Experience Rejection. It’s important to know that if you’re going to get in the arena, you should be prepared to get yours hands dirty. No matter what you look like, how great your pictures are, or how ready available you make yourself, you will face rejection. Halfway through a promising conversation, you might get ghosted—or even blocked. The key is to know that this is simply part of the process. Is it fun? Of course not. But it’s often not personal. How many times have you abandoned a chat because you got distracted, tired or maybe you just weren’t in the mood anymore? Sometimes you will be rejected specifically because they didn’t like the latest photo you sent. It’s harsh. But it’s what happens. Don’t Expect Politeness. Apps have a dehumanizing quality. It’s easy to forget that the man you’re communicating with is a real person, with their own set of feelings and sensitiveness. But scrolling through Grindr, it’s easy to lose track of the person behind the photo and simply see them as an item on a menu for consumption. My point is apps elicit our most selfish motives, and with that our manners and common decency often go out the window. The result is guys can be ridiculously rude or often downright mean behind a keyboard. So my advice is set your expectations low. Don’t expect guys to cater to your feelings, or even consider them in the first place. If they do, then great. But don’t expect it. Digital Chemistry can be Misleading. If you use apps regularly, you are very likely to encounter one negative outcome. You go to meet someone and you’re not attracted to them…in person. Even if they look like their pictures, sometimes the chemistry on an app does not translate to the real-life interaction. When you meet someone at a party or a bar, you can immediately gage this in-person chemistry. But on an app, it’s always a gamble. You never really know if the chemistry will be there when you meet the person. Don’t be surprised if you experience a few letdowns if you use apps regularly. Again, it’s all about perspective. If you have the wrong expectations, you’re bound to be disappointed. But if you know what you’re getting yourself into, you’re much more likely to have fun. Curious to hear your thoughts :) Have you had success on apps like Grindr? ☎️ Book a free consultation call with me: michaelpezzullo.com/contact #gay #gayboy #therapist #datingadvice #lgbt #psychology #gaydating #lgbtq+ #grindrtips #onlinedating #hookupculture #datingapps #grindretiquette #lgbtqcommunity #gayrelationships #ghosting #rejectionondatingapps #grindradvice #datingappstruggles #gayhookups #digitaldating