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The Words We Ignored… Until Life Proved Them Right - Dr. Mohamed Habib Alfandi

#Mohamed_Habib_Alfandi #Alfandi_Lifestyle_Coaching_Center Subscribe - Dr. Alfandi's channels on YouTube 1. The official and main channel (Arabic)    / @alfande2011   2. Rules of Life channel (Arabic)-    / @قواعدالحياة-ح6ض   3. Scientists and knowers experiences channel (Arabic)    / @مجرباتالعلماءوالعارفين   4. Psychological secrets channel (Arabic)    / @أسرارنفسية-ل2ش   5. The official and main channel (English)    / @drmohamedhabibalfandi   There are phrases we hear from our parents and smile, thinking, “Those words don’t fit our time anymore.” But years later, after we’ve stumbled and paid the price, we find ourselves repeating them — this time with understanding. A young man once started his first business full of excitement. Everything was ready — the idea, the team, the funding. His mother told him, “My son, don’t rush. Think again. Review everything.” He laughed. “Mom, times have changed. You still think the old way.” She replied, “Time changes, but the blessing of patience never does.” He didn’t listen. He jumped in too fast, trusted the wrong people, and made rash decisions. Within two months, the business collapsed. Everyone left. And when he sat alone asking, “What happened?”, he could only hear her voice echoing, “Think more, my son.” That’s when he realized he hadn’t just lost a business — he’d rejected a gift. A gift wrapped in a mother’s voice. And this story repeats itself in different ways. A wife who ignored her mother’s advice, “Don’t raise your voice when you’re angry. Words stay inside hearts.” She shouted once — and that moment left a crack that never healed. A son whose father warned him, “Be careful with your friend.” He laughed it off — until that friend betrayed him. A daughter whose mother said, “The one who truly loves you won’t pull you away from your family.” She didn’t believe her — until she got hurt. Our parents may not have studied psychology or management, but they carry a wisdom born of experience, not books. Advice that comes from a mother’s heart rarely fails — not because she knows more, but because she loves more. In psychology, this overconfidence of youth is called the “illusion of advanced awareness.” We think we know better just because our world moves faster. But wisdom doesn’t come from speed — it comes from falling, rising, and learning. That’s what parents carry, even if they don’t know our modern terms. They know life, and they’ve seen the outcome of choices we’re still about to make. Rejecting an elder’s advice is a soft kind of pride — the pride that blocks wisdom because it didn’t come in a young voice. So if your mother or father says, “Be careful, don’t rush, rethink your decision,” don’t say, “That’s outdated.” Wisdom has no age. A mother doesn’t speak unless she sees something coming she doesn’t want you to fall into. Go back to the advice, even after time passes. Maybe you didn’t get it then — but you’ll understand it when life teaches you the same lesson. Because your mother wanted you to arrive, even if by a slower road — a safer, truer one. The Prophet ﷺ was asked, “Who deserves my good company most?” He said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” Again: “Then who?” He said, “Your mother.” And only then, “Your father.” Three times — as if to remind us that a mother’s words are never empty, and her fear is always love. But some will say, “My mother isn’t like that. She’s harsh, she makes me feel worthless.” Yes. Sometimes pain comes from those closest to us. And sometimes the mother who hurts is herself wounded — carrying pain that never healed. She hurts without meaning to. No one is free from flaws, not even mothers. That doesn’t mean you repay harm with harm. It doesn’t mean you stay silent and break inside. It means you understand, act with awareness, set boundaries that protect your dignity, and forgive — even if from a distance. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It means you stop hurting yourself because of what happened. The Prophet ﷺ said: “There is no obedience to creation when it means disobedience to the Creator.” Kindness to parents doesn’t mean erasing who you are or allowing injustice. It means honoring your mother in ways that please Allah, while also protecting yourself in ways that please Him. If your mother is in pain and has hurt you, ask Allah to heal her — and to heal you from her. Keep her respect, and keep your peace. And if one day she says something that hurts, reply between you and your Lord: “O Allah, forgive her. O Allah, guide her heart.” Because when you forgive, you don’t become smaller. You simply end the cycle of pain — and begin the journey of healing again. May you always be in Allah’s care.