Pleasure Ain’t the Problem, Shame Is | Nikquan Lewis | TEDxThird Ward скачать в хорошем качестве

Pleasure Ain’t the Problem, Shame Is | Nikquan Lewis | TEDxThird Ward

Pleasure Ain’t the Problem, Shame Is explores how shame quietly shapes our lives—training us to survive, overperform, and disconnect from our bodies, our needs, and our joy. Drawing from lived experience and clinical insight, Nikquan Lewis reveals how shame operates not just as a feeling, but as a pattern passed down through generations. This talk offers a powerful reframe: pleasure is not indulgence or reward—it is a daily practice that restores regulation, connection, and freedom. By reclaiming pleasure, we interrupt cycles of burnout, self-neglect, and silence, and begin building lives that feel good, not just look good. At its core, this talk is an invitation to stop letting shame write the story—and to take the pen back. Nikquan Lewis is a Licensed Relationship and Sex Therapist, keynote speaker, bestselling author of When Trauma Is Your Author, and Professional Wellness Consultant whose work focuses on disrupting shame and restoring connection, pleasure, and emotional safety. A woman who understands what it means to be accomplished while quietly disconnected, Nikquan blends lived experience with clinical expertise. She specializes in helping high-achieving Black women and professionals unlearn shame, stop settling, and reclaim pleasure as a vital part of mental, relational, and emotional wellness. Through her private practice, Intimate Connections PLLC, Nikquan has supported hundreds of women, couples, and clinicians in dismantling generational dysfunction and building lives that feel as good as they look. Her trauma-informed frameworks—including the S.A.D.™ Model (Suppress, Abandon, Disappear)—have been featured on national news outlets, major media platforms, and in publications such as Essence, Glamour, and Cosmopolitan. Nikquan is a sought-after speaker and media expert who has delivered several keynotes and trainings including Essence Festival, corporate wellness spaces such as Microsoft, and appears as a psychological expert on TV One. Her work helps organizations and communities interrupt burnout, strengthen emotional safety, and build cultures rooted in connection rather than performance. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx