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How to Stop Fighting About Money (for Couples)

Fights about money are common, but they're rarely about math. They're about power, shame, vulnerability, and trust. And no amount of data or fancy spreadsheets is going to fix it. What you need is a better system for fairness, more open communication, and a shared ambition. In this candid conversation with Heather and Doug Boneparth, we explore how two partners rebuilt confidence, handled their six-figure student loans, and designed a rhythm for money talks that actually works. Together they share how early money stories, law school debt, and the Great Recession shaped their dynamic, plus the tools they used to find fairness at home and in their finances Key Takeaways Why 50/50 isn't always fair and how to do it better. The small ritual that turned dreaded money talks into something they actually look forward to. How borrowing a strategy from the office made household decisions way less stressful. The surprising fix for resentment that had nothing to do with chores or budgeting. Why tackling six-figure student loans together became a turning point in their relationship. The mindset shift that helped them see debt not as a burden but as a shared opportunity Resources and Links Money Together, the book: https://amzn.to/47k9u0D DoMoneyTogether.com, learn more about the book and project The Joint Account, weekly newsletter on joint finances at ReadTheJointAccount.com Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://amzn.to/3Jey2QS Glossary Money Date, a recurring, scheduled conversation where partners review wins, goals, and upcoming decisions before looking at numbers. Mental Load, the invisible planning and project-management work that keeps a household running. Fairness, an outcome where power, information, and agency feel balanced even when contributions differ. Chapters Note: Timestamps will vary on individual listening devices based on dynamic advertising segments. The provided timestamps are approximate and may be several minutes off due to changing ad lengths. (9:37) Law school, six-figure debt, then the market collapses (13:40) Journalism dream, scarcity mindset, and choosing law for security (20:08) Taking a steadier in-house role so the business could grow (21:08) Refinancing, co-signing, and turning shame into teamwork (37:32) Working together and launching the Money Together project (55:10) How to run a money date and pick the right environment (56:10) Fair Play and owning whole activities to reduce friction (1:15:33) Where to find the book and newsletter, next steps _______________ Subscribe via Apple Podcasts: https://affordanything.com/applepodcasts Full show notes for the episode: https://affordanything.com/episode Get our show notes in your inbox: https://affordanything.com/shownotes Follow us! IG:   / paulapant   Twitter:   / affordanything   FB:   / affordanything   Community: https://affordanything.com/community