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"Selfish" Is the Most Dangerous Word in Self-Care | Jesse Miller

Jesse Miller is a craniosacral therapist and exercise physiologist who believes we've been doing emotional regulation completely wrong — and it's breaking us. In this episode of The Brandon Goodyear Show, Jesse sits down with Brandon for a wide-ranging conversation about why humming can literally rewire your nervous system, the hidden danger of outsourcing your self-awareness to an Apple Watch, and the controversial idea that we should actually be MORE emotionally unregulated — not less. Jesse opens up about growing up in a family where caring for others meant ignoring yourself, the generational belief that self-care is selfish, and the moment during the pandemic when she wrote "I don't know what emotion is" in a notebook — and everything changed. They explore how scared and happy are the same physiological response, why your exhale is more important than your inhale, the connection between breath and heart rate variability, and how to find joy in movement instead of optimizing your way into hating exercise. Whether you're a biohacker glued to your Oura ring, a parent trying to raise emotionally healthy kids, or someone who just feels stuck — this conversation will give you a completely new framework for connecting with yourself. 00:00 - Why Humming Literally Rewires Your Nervous System 04:14 - The Yoga Connection: How Sound Brings You to Center 05:30 - How Frequencies Secretly Manipulate You in Movie Theaters 07:53 - Jesse's First Sound Bath Changed Everything 09:31 - Music as Medicine: Vinyl, Sanctuary Rooms & Listening Clubs 13:22 - Your Nervous System Heals in Community 14:30 - What Does It Actually Feel Like to Be Safe? 16:34 - "Emotional Options" — Why We're Afraid of the Full Spectrum 17:53 - Getting Dangerously Specific With Your Goals 19:46 - SMART Goals: The Framework Jesse Uses With Patients 22:14 - Track It to Hack It — But at What Cost? 24:05 - Your Apple Watch Is Disconnecting You From Your Body 27:07 - The Bullet Journal Method That Replaced Jesse's Apps 29:45 - Stuck in the Past vs. Stuck in the Future 32:11 - Can Your Sleep App Actually Help You? The Honest Answer 35:18 - What a Bad Night's Sleep Really Tells You 37:13 - Creatine at 4AM: When Your Body Surprises You 39:24 - What Your Enneagram Number Reveals About Time 41:42 - How to Stop Being Defined by Your Past 45:54 - Why Your Family's Career Path Isn't Yours 48:34 - Every Coffee Shop Led to a Career Milestone 50:43 - Step One: How to "Drop In" to Your Body 52:03 - The Mind-Blowing Connection Between Breath and Heart Rate 56:37 - Scared and Happy Are the Same Response 58:46 - Therapy Is Trying to Fix Hardware With a Software Update 1:02:40 - Babies Are the Purest Form of Emotional Reaction 1:03:02 - "This Might Get Me Canceled" — We Need MORE Emotional Unregulation 1:04:07 - "I Don't Love You Anymore" — What a 4-Year-Old Teaches About Anger 1:06:18 - Helicopter Parenting Created a Risk-Averse Generation 1:07:38 - The Broken Leg Story That Shaped Everything 1:10:33 - What Childhood Moment Made Jesse a Healer? 1:11:27 - Why "Selfish" Is a Generational Lie 1:15:28 - Society's Obsession With Martyrdom Is Burning People Out 1:18:48 - The Community Reciprocation Problem Nobody Talks About 1:22:17 - Finding Your Movement Practice Through Joy, Not Optimization 1:27:23 - Stop Optimizing — Just Find What You Love 1:28:55 - "20 Questions With Jesse" — The Daily Podcast Idea 1:29:16 - The Power of Thinking About Yourself (It's Not Selfish) 1:30:45 - Jesse's Pendulum: From Feeling Nothing to Feeling Everything 1:32:20 - "I Don't Know What Emotion Is" — The Notebook Moment 1:34:00 - Why Everyone Is Expressing Opinions at 100% 1:35:36 - "You're Allowed to Be Angry, But You Can't Hurt Anybody" 1:37:39 - Closing: Our Pendulum Swung Wide 💬 What's one emotion you were taught to suppress growing up? Drop it in the comments — let's talk about it. 🎙️ Follow Jesse Miller:   / conscious.yoga.and.wellness   🔗 Follow The Brandon Goodyear Show: