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49: Your Self-Care Might Be the Problem

There is a version of “getting your life together” that looks impressive on the outside… But inside, you’re still disconnected, overwhelmed, and avoiding what actually needs attention. In this episode, Amber breaks down the critical difference between numbing and healing. From overworking and over-socializing to wellness routines that look healthy but function as a distraction. Amber explains how many of us are performing healing instead of actually doing it. She shares candid personal examples and client patterns that reveal a hard truth: staying busy, productive, spiritual, or disciplined can still be a way of running from grief, anger, fear, or unmet needs. She reminds us: “Relief is not the same as repair. Numbing postpones. Healing asks you to stay…” Amber unpacks how social media wellness culture and therapy speak can reinforce avoidance, why coping tools are often mistaken for healing, and how unchecked numbing quietly postpones the breakthroughs we’re longing for. Reflection questions: • What am I feeling that I’m trying to avoid? • Am I running toward something, or running away from something? • How do I feel after I do the thing, relieved but anxious, or tired but more whole? • What would happen if I sat with this feeling instead of escaping it? • What am I afraid might surface if I slowed down? Tune in as this episode is an invitation to stop checking boxes and start staying present. 🛍️ Shop Amber’s Be A Good Human merch: https://www.ambercabral.com/merch KEY POINTS: 00:00 – Introduction 00:55 – Numbing vs Real Healing 03:47 – Examples of Numbing in Daily Life 06:35 – Dangers of Numbing Behaviors 10:50 – Healing Reflection Questions QUOTES: "You can be dressed, you can be well put together. You can be booked. You can be busy, you can be productive. You can be spiritual and still be absent, nowhere near present, because you're not actually healing things. You are using the action and the activity of your life to numb." — Amber Cabral "Numbing isn't really about the activity. It's about what you're actually running from. It's about why you're doing the activity." — Amber Cabral "Relief by way of a nap, by way of distracting myself with the gym, by way of distracting myself by being outside and connecting and being a socialite, which are okay things, is not the same as repair." — Amber Cabral "The goal is to build a life that feels good from the inside out, not to strive for perfection." — Amber Cabral Amber’s substack | https://humaningwell.substack.com/ Amber Cabral Website | https://www.ambercabral.com/ IG | @bamcabral -   / bamcabral   LinkedIn |   / ambercabral   Facebook |   / amber.cabral   X | @BamCabral -   / bamcabral   Bluesky | https://bsky.app/profile/bamcabral.bs... Watch Amber’s TED TALK here - https://www.ted.com/talks/amber_cabra... You can purchase Amber's books from the retailer of your choice here: https://www.ambercabral.com/books/ Allies and Advocates: Creating an Inclusive and Equitable Culture Say More About That: ...And Other Ways to Speak Up, Push Back, and Advocate for Yourself and Others Human(ing) Well is produced by EPYC Media Network (visit at https://www.epyc.co/)