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EP 27 - I Can't Commit to a Career (Here's the Real Reason)

SUMMARY Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming In this episode, Hazel unpacks the real reason you can't commit to a job, obsess over emails for hours, or feel paralyzed by career decisions — and no, it's not indecision. It's your attachment style. Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 27 explores how the same psychological patterns that shape your relationships are secretly running your career decisions. From the hyper-independent girl who refuses to ask for help, to the over-researcher who polls everyone but still can't choose — Hazel breaks down the science of attachment theory and how your nervous system is keeping you stuck. This episode will help you: Understand why career decisions feel as emotionally intense as relationship drama Identify your attachment pattern (avoidant vs. anxious) and how it's showing up at work Build the psychological security you need to take bigger risks, negotiate boundaries, and finally move forward with clarity KEY TAKEAWAYS Your Brain Doesn't Separate Love and Work Security → Risk-Taking. Insecurity → Protection. Research shows: secure attachment = clearer vocational identity, more exploration, real confidence Anxious attachment = cognitive overload, choice paralysis, comparison spirals Avoidant attachment = extreme independence that limits network growth long-term Stable Relationships = Clearer Career Identity Czech study (21-year-olds): close parental ties early → vocational clarity Over time: romantic partner stability matters more than parents for career confidence Chinese research: self-differentiation (handling others' expectations without losing yourself) = psychological immune system The SECURE Framework: S — Stabilize support (anchor, advisor, peer) E — Examine your pattern (withdraw or spiral?) C — Create decision container (limit inputs) U — Upgrade self-differentiation (separate their fear from your desire) R — Regulate first (nervous system before logic) E — Engineer environment (you become the 5 people around you) CHAPTERS 00:00 - Intro: You Don't Have a Career Problem, You Have an Attachment Problem 06:03 - The Two Types of Girls in Their 20s (And Why Both Are Stuck) 07:40 - The Science: How Your Brain Treats Career Decisions Like Relationships 12:26 - Czech Study: Secure Attachment = Vocational Clarity 14:19 - Chinese Study: Self-Differentiation as Your Psychological Immune System 15:06 - The Avoidant Girl: Why "I Don't Need Help" Is Holding You Back 16:26 - The Anxious Girl: Choice Paralysis & Comparison Spirals 20:06 - The SECURE Framework: How to Build Stability & Take Bigger Risks 23:26 - Close: Your Attachment Style Is Protection — Not Personality RESOURCES ⁠Chinese Study on Self-Differentiation & Career Adaptability⁠ (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...) ⁠Czech Study on Emerging Adults & Vocational Identity⁠ (https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles...) ⁠The Neuroscience of Love: What’s Going on in the Lovestruck Brain?⁠ (https://www.georgetown.edu/news/the-n...) Related Episode: ⁠EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s⁠ (   • EP 22  – How Personal Branding Creates Car...  ) LET'S CONNECT ✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you! DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together. Host - Hazel Ann Instagram:⁠@clearlybecoming⁠ TikTok:⁠ ⁠@clearlybecoming_⁠ 🎧 Subscribe to the Clearly Becoming | HerCareerHerWay YouTube channel: 👉⁠    / @clearlybecoming