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Maintaining Friendships

How to maintain friendships Friendships develop under the warm sun of mutual admiration. Minimize your own interests and accomplishments – no matter how great they are. Emphasize your friends interests and accomplishments. Try reserve and suspend judgements. Begin a conversation with a neighbor or person in a queue simply for the purpose of initiating conversation. Use common sense. Find someone with similar interests. Most people in a queue are as lonely as you. No one says a word and everyone is lonely and depressed. You must be more intelligent and courageous and initiate the conversation. This is the first step in social rapport. In my experience a courteous or kind word of greeting or interest is almost never rebuffed if it is genuine. Great humans should never be insulted by a genuine word. Breaking the ice. You do not need to discuss Kantian metaphysics of Einsteinian Relativity – You can discuss the weather or football or rugby or cricket. The smallest topics are the best. These are the lubricating oil of everyday life! Ask the time! Go to a stranger and ask the time. Train yourself. Then follow through. Be kind to the elderly and the overlooked in society. The wallflowers. Be kind to those with disabilities, the shy and the timid souls. All those who ‘shrink’ away from social contacts. Talk to the elderly. Hints on social success: Make yourself valuable to those who are in the mad rush. Traditional means of meeting people are now inadequate. Nothing is insincere and hypocritical if it extends and enriches human relations. Master the philosophy of friendship and a constructive social life. Increase your social horizons. Telephone an old friend. Invite someone for coffee, tea or a milkshake. Express concern or interest in others. Reference: WB Wolfe. How to Be Happy Though Human. 2017. McAllister Editions. Page 266.