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Pastor & Church Members: Healthy Boundaries, Submission, and Avoiding Overdependence | EP. XVI

In this broadcast of Answers the Bible Questions (ABQ), host Evelyn speaks with Kayode Crown of Christ is King Publications and Ministries about the biblical relationship between pastors (elders) and church members. They explain that, in Christ, believers relate as brothers and sisters through a spiritual bond rather than ethnicity, force, or social power, while members are still called to submit to elders in how the church is guided and organized. Kayode emphasizes that church leadership is a servant responsibility—pastors are to feed and serve the sheep, not treat members as property, abuse them, or use them to meet personal needs; needs should be met by Christ. The conversation addresses boundaries and discretion in what members share with pastors, warning against compulsory or excessive dependence and encouraging maturity, rootedness in Scripture, and personal repentance. They also discuss how overfamiliarity and repeated private counseling can create temptation and lead to sexual or financial exploitation, advising safeguards such as involving a pastor’s wife in sensitive counseling. Kayode places primary responsibility on pastors to be sober, vigilant, disciplined, and to repent first at the level of thoughts, resisting self-deception and seeking sufficiency in Christ. The episode closes by inviting viewers to like, share, comment, subscribe, and submit questions to be featured on ABQ. 00:00 Welcome to ABQ + Meet the Hosts 00:28 What’s the Right Relationship Between Pastors & Church Members? 00:56 Brothers & Sisters in Christ: A New Kind of Bond 02:12 Submission to Elders vs. Spiritual Equality 03:53 Servant Leadership: Feeding the Sheep, Not Ruling Them 05:00 Abuse & Exploitation Warning Signs (Power, Control, Needs) 05:45 Personal Boundaries: What Should You Share With Your Pastor? 06:59 Discernment & Avoiding Overdependence on the Pastor 09:58 Maturity Goal: Growing Rooted in Christ (Not Staying a Child) 13:23 Preventing Temptation & Sin: Practical Safeguards (Sex, Money, Access) 17:07 Pastor’s Responsibility: Vigilance, Discipline, Guarding the Heart 20:12 Wrap-Up, Thanks, and How to Send Questions / Subscribe