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I’m terrified of my wife’s emotions – how do I reach her without reacting emotionally myself?

In this dialogue, a man tells Barry Long he has spent years terrified of his wife’s emotions and of his own reactions – if, for instance, his questions come from intelligence or his angry self. Barry turns the question around: instead of asking what is wrong with her, the man must ask, “What am I doing to make you emotional?” Barry says no woman becomes emotional without a good reason from her point of view, often rooted in something painful she cannot yet face. “The question is, why is my wife emotional? Why is my partner emotional? That’s the question… What am I doing or not doing to make you emotional?” “Our way is always to accuse the other, you know, but my way is to advise people to say, 'What am I doing to make you unhappy or emotional?' … When there’s nothing for emotion to hit against, no resistance, the emotion starts to die…” True love means taking responsibility for the impact one has, asking sincerely, and then listening without defence, justification, or counterattack. When there is no resistance, emotion eventually dies down because it finds nothing to strike. Otherwise, mutual blame hardens into a growing wall of resentment between partners. #BarryLongAnswers #emotionalreaction #consciousrelationship #manandwoman #listening ~ This Q&A comes from the fifth of nine recordings in Barry Long’s 1996 LEICESTER talks, recorded on 20 July 1996. These and many other never-before-published recordings have been meticulously digitised only recently and are now available for listening in high quality. The complete 1996 LEICESTER series can be heard in two ways: through The Barry Long Podcast or The Barry Long Archive. The full recording will be published here – https://open.spotify.com/show/34rcMFK... – on the 5th of December, 2025. A direct link will be posted here when available. ~ A reading list on man–woman relationship: 📃 The Purpose of Love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Love is not a doing – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Love brings all to life – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 To love a woman – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 What love wants – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 My love of woman – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Love has a purpose – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 True love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Pure love, emotional love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 'No problem' partnership – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 The wisdom of love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Loving or leaving – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 Original love – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... 📃 True Tantra – https://www.barrylong.org/archive/art... ~ Barry Long Answers is a new, free podcast that invites listeners into the intimate dialogue of audience questions and the spiritual master’s answer. These exchanges provide universal guidance to a range of everyday issues concerning man and woman. Each episode begins with a direct question put to Barry and his uncompromising response. The series draws from the Barry Long Archive, a repository of over 20 years of Barry Long’s teachings. For full-length talks and extended dialogues, besides 'Barry Long Answers', the usual 'Barry Long Podcast' continues as a separate stream, with both free and subscriber-only editions available. Or if you'd like access to the full Barry Long Archive, the Barry Long website offers a subscription to this. Barry described himself as the ‘Master of The West.’ His ideas, vocabulary and expressions are unmistakably and patently Western: down to earth and practical. His teaching is free from tradition or religion, be it Western or Eastern. Over more than twenty-five years he spoke to thousands of men and women and he addressed them where they were – in their real, living life. The reference point always being in living the truth now, not the past. In this directness lies Barry’s distinctive usefulness and uniqueness: a practical wisdom that addresses contemporary issues and presents a way to transform the unhappy human condition into the freedom of being. The Barry Long Podcast: https://www.barrylong.org/podcast/about The Barry Long Archive: https://www.barrylong.org/archive ~ Barry Long was a spiritual teacher who taught internationally from the 1980's up until his death in 2003. His spiritual teaching is grounded in practicality and addresses all aspects of modern day life. http://www.barrylong.org   / barrylongquotes     / barrylongnews     / barrylong.truerealandhere