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What to Do When You're Attracted to Somebody Other Than Your Spouse | S2E1

In this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, hosts Brandon and Caitlyn Doerksen dive deep into a widely debated and often shame-filled topic: being attracted to people other than your spouse. The conversation is sparked by a viral social media post that drew thousands of comments and opposing viewpoints, which the hosts read and respond to throughout the episode. They challenge the common narrative that men are "biologically wired" to be attracted to other people, arguing instead that this is a learned belief system. The discussion gets to the core of why this is such a painful topic for many couples, revealing it often stems from a lack of mutual commitment and a shared vision for the marriage. The hosts offer a surprising revelation: it is possible to create a relationship where you are only attracted to your spouse. This episode provides actionable advice on how to build a stronger, more committed union by shedding old beliefs and intentionally creating the marriage you desire. Watch the Instagram reel that sparked this episode: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DMHGw8... Workshops for Couples: Tap here to attend one of our 2025 in-person workshops https://www.groundedunion.com/ Our 2025 Grounded Union workshops & intensives: 📍San Diego, CA – In-Person & Virtual (August 22nd & 23rd) 🏝️Maui, Hawaii – 3-Day Intensive—limited to 20 couples, lodging included! (October 10th-13th) Looking for immediate support in your marriage? Community for Men: Tap here to start your 14-day FREE trial https://www.groundednation.com Workshops for Couples: Tap here to attend one of our 2025 in-person workshops https://www.groundedunion.com/ Grounded Intimacy Program: Tap here for more info on our online couples program https://courses.groundedintimacy.com/... Follow us on social at   / brandontalksmarriage   &   / caitlyn_doerksen   Check out our IG account to stay updated   / groundedunionpodcast   Timestamps & Key Moments: 00:00:28 – Welcome to Season 2! The hosts start the season with an overview of today’s topic: attraction outside of marriage—and why it's such a hot-button issue. 00:01:40 – Is It Normal to Be Attracted to Others?: Caitlyn reflects on how taboo this conversation is, especially in Christian spaces, and shares her initial thoughts about normalizing attraction. 00:06:14 – The Viral Post Reactions: They read through viral Instagram comments. Some encouraging, some skeptical, and others just plain spicy—highlighting diverse audience reactions. 00:06:56 – Recognizing vs. Being Attracted: The difference between recognizing someone is attractive and being attracted to them. 00:10:07 – Why Isn’t This Message Taught?: The hosts reflect on the church's silence around emotional integrity in attraction and why this conversation threatens the status quo. 00:25:13 – The Pinball Machine of Attraction: Every decision begins with contemplation, and even a "harmless" attraction can lead to a deeper desire for connection that ultimately causes a separation in a relationship. 00:28:12 – The Three Roots of Attraction: The core areas that contribute to attraction: past experiences, consumption, and limiting beliefs. 00:35:25 – Unpacking the "Biologically Wired" Argument: Brandon and Caitlyn dismantle the argument that humans are "biologically wired" to be attracted to others by explaining that what we're exposed to and what we consume shapes our beliefs. 00:47:43 – Desire, Disconnection & Avoidance: Brandon reflects on how Caitlyn’s full-hearted devotion exposed his own avoidant behavior and emotional disconnection, and why that pattern was painful to confront. 00:56:23 – This Wasn’t Easy—But It Was Worth It: This level of transformation was born from deep pain and discomfort, especially in the wake of betrayal. #TheGroundedUnionPodcast #Attraction #Relationship