STEPPARENTING REALITIES: DEALING WITH BABY MAMAS & DISRESPECTFUL STEP-CHILDREN скачать в хорошем качестве

STEPPARENTING REALITIES: DEALING WITH BABY MAMAS & DISRESPECTFUL STEP-CHILDREN

A relationship with a stepchild can be tricky, scary and infuriating. It's very important that [the biological parent] create that unity and that atmosphere that makes you feel safe- with that- slowly,It can turn out to be joyful, interesting and extremely fulfilling. A Few Tips:. -Reset your expectations Understand and accept that being a stepfamily is a very different dynamic. A stepparent enters as an outsider to an already established bond between the parent and child and an already established system. The other thing is that kids are hard-wired to connect to their parents. They often are not very interested...in having a stepparent come in and disrupt their lives. Acknowledging that your family is different can provide a more realistic, grounded perspective. -Be intentional about how you are going to enter your new family and your role in it. learn all you can about your stepchildren and the preexisting family dynamics. it's important to have transparent discussions about the child's history, including their temperament, personality and any special needs. All of this helps stepparents who are working to understand their stepchildren. -Be respectful to the other parent — especially in front of the children In the beginning, children often experience the addition of a new stepparent as a loss- It's a loss of the parent's attention. It's a loss all over again of the original two parents. It's often a lot of change. kids can also feel what's called a "loyalty bind," where the child may think, "if I care about my new stepmom, I'm disloyal to my mom." The loyalty bind seems to be normal and almost wired into kids, but it can mean that building a connection with a stepparent might actually be painful for the child. Children can be loyal to a bio-parent even if they're no longer involved or even alive, so don't bad mouth that person, no matter the provocation. -Let the biological parent deal with discipline in the early stages of the relationship. It's a common misconception that stepparents should be allowed to discipline the children and that the biological parent should back them up. Kids are not ready for a stepparent's discipline until or unless that stepparent has formed a caring, trusting relationship with his or her stepchild. Even when you feel like an outsider DON'T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY Many new step parents carry that insecurity.. . "Like, 'OK, he's not talking. Does he have an issue with me? Did I do something? Did I say something?' And it may not even be about you. FOLLOW US ON OUR SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES FOR MORE PERSONAL & RELATIONSHIP ADVISE INSTAGRAM: (@letsfixitcounseling) https://www.instagram.com/invites/con... TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@letsfixitwith... FACEBOOK:   / letsfixitwithsharifahnamusisi   TWITTER @Letsfixitcouple Take a look at Let's Fix It. Individual & Couples Counseling (@Letsfixitcouple): https://twitter.com/Letsfixitcouple?s=08