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Why "Coping" with Change Doesn't Work

Psychologist, Dr. Bill Crawford discusses why just coping with change doesn't work and shows some rather dramatic footage using a young girl facing her first rapids as a metaphor for dealing with change. www.BillCrawfordPhD.com "You can't 'cope with' change anymore than you can 'manage' stress." ~ Bill Crawford As a psychologist, speaker, and seminar leader, I'm often asked by individuals and organizations to help them cope with change. While this request is very understandable, it is unfortunately doomed from the start because of the way the request is phrased. You see, in my opinion coping with something implies getting through the experience with as little damage or discomfort as possible? almost as if your goal is to survive a particularly negative situation. For those of you familiar with my "Life from the Top of the Mind" philosophy (or how the brain works in general), you know that when we are trying to survive or avoid something, we are in the "survival" or fight/flight part of the brain. Here our options are limited, and we don't have access to the knowledge, skills, and confidence we need to deal successfully with change. Given that change is inevitable, I suggest we become more proactive and move into change in a more purposeful way. In his new book, "The Charge," author Brendon Burchard suggests we deal with change by both welcoming it, and even causing it. I like this perspective because it puts us in the most influential position possible. For example, if we think of life as a river, we know there are going to be calm waters where we can relax and just drift with the current, and there are going to be rapids (change). If we approach the rapids with fear and trepidation, then we will be thrown around and frightened even more by the turbulence. If, on the other hand, we see the rapids as a welcomed change and a place we want to be as influential as possible, then we can go into them causing change, or using the forward momentum of the river to navigate around rocks and propel ourselves forward. In life, this means going into meetings and other potentially turbulent interactions looking to define who we are versus being defined by the unstable nature of the conflict. From this place of self definition, we can then look to influence the direction of the interaction in a way that we believe would be the best for all concerned. If we are successful, then great! If not, we are still in charge of who we are where we stand. And from this place of confidence, we can then look to what's next with anticipation versus anxiety, and welcome the opportunity to influence what happens next.