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Are You Always Giving Too Much? | Terri Cole

Renowned relationship expert and licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole joins us to unravel the complexities of high-functioning codependency, a concept she brilliantly addresses in her latest book, "Too Much." Terri delves into the mindset of those who, despite their apparent competence and success, struggle with the overwhelming urge to prioritize others' needs over their own well-being. Through engaging discussions, she shares her transformative approach of asking expansive questions, encouraging us to find authenticity and inner peace without resorting to unsolicited advice. Listeners will find themselves captivated by personal stories, including a heartfelt account of dealing with a loved one's abusive relationship, illustrating the difficulty of recognizing codependent patterns hidden by high functionality. This episode sheds light on the often invisible struggle between wanting to help and understanding that real change must be self-initiated. By setting boundaries and stepping back, we empower those we care about to take control of their lives, revealing a path to genuine personal growth for everyone involved. Terri challenges us to embrace interdependence by moving away from the automatic urge to fix others, fostering deeper connections through meaningful dialogue. We explore how respecting boundaries and avoiding micromanagement can lead to more intimate and trusting relationships, celebrating the journey toward breaking the high-functioning codependency cycle. Join us as we reflect on personal growth and the importance of self-awareness, guided by Terri Cole's insightful wisdom, which promises to empower listeners on their quest for healthier connections. With love and ease, Susie Xo 00:00 Intro 01:20 Subscription Option 02:20 What Terri Hopes Her Book Will Do 03:01 Can We Be Cured Of High-Functioning Co-dependency? 04:19 How Does Terri Define High-Functioning Co-dependency? 05:16 Why Terri Coined The HFC Term 06:30 Terri’s Story As An HFC With Her Sister 09:05 Creating Boundaries With Family 10:39 You Can’t Save Another Person 11:57 Do HFCs Just Want Everyone To Be OK? 12:28 Terri’s List Of What People Tolerate 14:13 Take A Resentment Inventory 15:12 If You Can’t Not Do It Then It Is A Compulsion 16:36 The Behaviours Of HFCs 17:08 Terri’s Example Of Auto Accommodating 18:53 We Need To Understand And Learn To Tolerate Our Feelings 19:53 The Over And Under Functioning Dynamic 21:28 Susie’s Question About Being An HFC 22:30 The Two Questions To Ask Yourself Before Committing To Something 24:15 Power Of Not Trying To Fix People 24:56 The Question Terri Always Asks 26:42 How HFCs Have Glass Ceilings In Work And Relationships 28:12 Susie’s Example OF Being An HFC With Her Friend 30:34 We Don’t Know What Others’ Need To Learn In Their Lives 31:54 HFCs Have Amazing Qualities 32:29 HFCs And Being Hyper Independent 34:42 How HFCs Can Be In Marriage 35:54 Importance Of Treating Your Partner With Kindness 37:48 The Relief You Feel When You Don’t Feel Responsible For Everything 38:40 What HFC Transformations Has Terri Seen? 41:18 The One Thing Terri Wants You To Take From This Interview 42:50 Terri’s Subway Story About Learning How To Stop Rushing 46:05 Questioning The Need To Be Really Early 48:35 Terri’s Plan For Her Next Book 49:17 Gift Terri Has For Listeners Say hi on social: Instagram:   / susie.moore   Facebook:   / susiemoore.w.  . LinkedIn:   / susiemoore   Website: https://susie-moore.com    • Are You Always Giving Too Much? | Terri Cole   #relationship #codependency #change