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How to Enjoy Being Single

In this video, Thom answers a question on why we find ourselves single despite desiring a partner in life lives. Thom shares how we can enjoy all phases of our life by enjoying the support of Nature. Drop a comment below and let us know your thoughts 👇👇 Subscribe to Thom's channel: https://www.youtube.com/thomknoles?su... Interested in how the Vedic Meditation can enhance your feelings of joy and well-being? Visit https://thomknoles.com/​​​ to learn more.   / thethomknoles     / thethomknoles   Transcript: Can you reflect on why some people stay single, despite their preference to be partnered with someone? Through my meditation practice, I'm constantly cultivating Universal love and increased connection with others, but I don't feel that others can see it. So we just need to make up our mind, do we want to be a celibate, which is like my master and all of those with whom he trained. There are groups of very happy people. There are even associations of celibate people. There's nothing wrong with that. And, our very hokey, Western idea that absolutely everybody needs to be partnered up with somebody else. Actually, being a household or meaning being with somebody is demanding. It's annoying having to hang out with other people, actually. They have their own toothbrush thing and they have their own way of squeezing the toothpaste tubes. Do they make the bed the way you do or don't make it the way you do? What do they want for dinner? Whether they don't want for dinner, do they want to watch something? They don't want to watch something, they want to be here, want to be there. A life of constant surrender of individual preferences in aid of having the joy of maybe a few minutes, each day, of commonality of experience. It's a demanding life, the householder life. I need you to review this before you make some big decision about, "Why am I not coupled up with somebody?" The real question might be, "Why are you succumbing to the hypnosis of social conditioning that says that you have to be with somebody else all the time?" You might have times of your life... there are great masters in my tradition, who spent part of their life as householders, meaning couples with property, with relationships and all of that, and spent part of their life in complete seclusion. You need to find what the right formula is for you. Probably Nature is already organizing for you, what's right for you. But, we may be getting benefit from Nature's intelligence and, inadvertently, we might be rejecting and resisting the benefit. Some of us might look at the idea of seclusion as being lonely and all alone. Others might look at seclusion and, at whatever stage of life they're in, and say that is blessed solitude. The only blessedness. Solitude. What phase of your life are you in right now? And, are you accepting what Nature's offering to you or are you rejecting it all the time? And again, we come down to accurate versus inaccurate expectations. What is it that you're expecting? Is it accurate or is it inaccurate? Maybe we need to challenge the assumptions we're making and be totally happy with blessed solitude for periods of time. Most people who are deeply entangled in a relationship, at least three times a week, think to themselves, "If only I could get some blessed solitude." And, likewise, people who are in blessed solitude might several times each week think to themselves, "This is also lovely, I wish I could share it with someone." So you see the thing is, at any given time, Nature may be sculpting us to either be with people, or to be on our own. What we need to do is be nimble enough that we can enjoy whatever it is that Nature is offering up to us. To what extent can you enjoy it? The mistake that we make as humans, again, is rigid attachment. I have to assign to myself to a category. Put myself in a pigeonhole or a box and say, "I'm this. And this is what I am for my entire lifetime. And that's it." Well, highly unlikely. You were born a little tiny infant, helpless in the arms of your mother. And you going to grow up to be like that again, some elderly aged old person, completely dependent upon others who take care of you for a period of time, unless you come to an end in some other way prior to that. You're going to be infantile again. In between these two infantile states, we have the opportunity for a vast variety of experience. Why not just enjoy all of it? Why rivet yourself to one specific thing and say, "I'm this." This is one of the grave ways in which people in our modern society actually give themselves a tremendous amount of trouble. You pigeonhole yourself. The fact is, you are potentially all of it, but what is particularly useful to you at any given time? For the next week or the next six weeks? The next year, the next six years? What is it? Are you open to what Nature is offering you? Why not just enjoy what you're experiencing?"