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SWM 133 - Loving your spouse where they are. Check out the blog post here (https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/sw...) for more details and links. I often give beginner homework to my coaching clients. A few of them will likely read this and think, “He was talking about me.” You’re not wrong, but you’re also not alone. I give it out frequently because it helps combat some fundamental problems I see in many marriages: resentment, unmet expectations, and continued disappointment. Whatever caused the resentment doesn’t matter. If you want to improve the marriage, you must get rid of that attitude first. Resentment leads to contempt, and once you hit that point, the marriage is on life support, and it becomes challenging to resurrect. Some come to coaching and realize that they have this issue. They recognize that resentment is an attitude, and attitudes can be changed. They know they can fix it; they just don’t know how or need some support, some accountability, or encouragement to keep up the hard work of changing that mindset. And it is hard work. Reversing that mindset takes time, effort, and consistently following the plan we co-create. There are ups and downs, backslides, and sidetracks. But if they put in the work, then it does happen. Then the fun begins because now we can make some real progress. Others come to coaching convinced their spouse is the issue and work hard to rationalize and justify their attitude toward them. They want me to change their spouse so that they can be happy. Sometimes, they have one foot out the door already, and this is the last-ditch effort to “save the marriage,” by which they mean that if I don’t fix their spouse, they will divorce them. Whatever type they are, they get the same homework. It’s not only the first step to reversing the mindset but also a test to see if they’re coachable. Listen to find out what the homework is. Follow us on Facebook (  / uncoveringintimacy  , Instagram (  / uncoveringintimacy  ) and Twitter (  / uncoveringlove  ) If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum (https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/ch.... Thank you to all our faithful supporters! If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page (https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/do...) for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference. Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship. Episode link: https://play.headliner.app/episode/21... (video made with https://www.headliner.app)