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Episode 185: When Career Success Strains Your Friendships (and What to Do About It)

Are you a high-achieving woman who looks socially fine on the outside… but feels quietly disconnected on the inside? In this episode of Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship, I talk with Dr. Kimberly Horn — research psychologist, public health scientist, professor, and author of Friends Matter for Life: Harnessing the Eight Tenets of Dynamic Friendship — about the hidden impact of career success on adult friendships. As women rise professionally, friendships often get more complicated. Calendars fill up. Roles shift. Invitations slow down. And sometimes the very competence that fuels success can lead to over-functioning, resentment, or loneliness. If you’re navigating female leadership, ambition, work-life balance, or the tension between success and connection, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we discuss: Why career success can shrink your friend circle (even when you don’t want it to) Why high-achieving women often feel “socially rich” but internally disconnected How constantly saying “I’m so busy” can quietly train people to stop inviting you The optimization trap: canceling a friend walk four times but never canceling the draining meeting The comparison trap: jealousy in female friendships — and why it’s normal Co-celebration and how celebrating other women’s success rewires your brain The over-functioning trap: when competence turns into caretaking (and resentment) What healthy reciprocity actually looks like in adult friendship How to know when a friendship is temporarily “askew” versus unhealthy Why some friendships fade without drama — and why that doesn’t erase their meaning Practical tools for busy, ambitious women: ✔ The 2-2-1 Friendship Ritual: 2 texts, 2 phone calls, 1 in-person touchpoint each week — simple, doable, and protective of real connection ✔ How to safeguard your energy (not everyone gets full access to your calendar) ✔ Why friendship is not an “extra” — it’s a health habit If you’ve been telling yourself you’ll “get back to friendships” once work slows down, this episode is your reminder: connection isn’t a luxury. It’s foundational to emotional health, resilience, and long-term wellbeing. About Dr. Kimberly Horn: Dr. Kimberly Horn is an internationally recognized research psychologist and public health scientist. Her book Friends Matter for Life explores the science of dynamic, healthy friendships across adulthood. 🔗 Check out other Dear Nina episodes! Ep. 143 — The Law of Rejection in Friendships (with @HelpMeHarlan )    • Episode 143: The Law of Rejection in Frien...   Ep. 146 — Tolerate Uncertainty & Stop the Overthinking Spiral (with Dr. Jackie Henry)    • Episode 146: Tolerate Uncertainty & Stop O...   Ep. 132 — The Four Types of Connection (with @SuperPsychedPodcastwithDrAdamD )    • Episode 132: The Power of the 4 Types of C...   Ep. 180 - Mean Mom Culture, Relational Aggression, and Belonging vs. Inclusion (with Dr. Noelle Santorelli)    • Episode 180: Mean Moms: When Adult Friends...   Ep. 151 — Myths Around Adult Friendships (with Jazzmyn Proctor @healingwithjazzmyn )    • Episode 151: Myths Around Adult Friendship...   Ep. 160 — Live Show in Chicago    • Episode 160: From the Cafeteria to the Mah...   Ep. 172 — What BEACHES Gets Right About Friendship    • Episode 172: What the Movie “Beaches” Gets...   🌟 LET’S CONNECT OVER ALL THINGS FRIENDSHIP! 💛 Substack Newsletter: https://dearnina.substack.com 💛   / nina-badzin-179b1284   💛   / dearninafriendship   💛   / dearninafriendship   💛   / dearninab   💛   / ninabadzin   💛 https://ninabadzin.com 💛 Threads: https://www.threads.net/@dearninafrie... #FriendshipAdvice #HowToBeABetterFriend #ConversationSkills #DearNina #FriendshipPodcast #AdultFriendship #FriendshipChallenge #conversation #betterconversations #friendshipadvice #friendshipskills #friendshipgoals #friendshipbreakup #highachievingwoman #jealousy #workfriends