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The Pleasure Gap: Rethinking Intimacy & Consent

In this episode of Tripping Over Love, Courtney and Keith sit down with Betty Martin, author of The Art of Receiving and Giving, to explore intimacy, consent, desire, and the often-overlooked challenge of receiving. Betty shares the framework behind the Wheel of Consent, a powerful somatic model that helps people understand who an experience is for, how giving and receiving actually work, and why so many couples struggle with sex, desire, and communication—even when they love each other deeply. This conversation goes beyond legal or verbal consent to explore: Why receiving is more vulnerable than giving How low libido often develops from unspoken compromise The difference between touch, sexual connection, and connection Why “going along with it” quietly kills desire How consent dynamics show up at home, at work, and in everyday life Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, navigating intimacy after burnout or resentment, or simply curious about healthier communication around touch and desire, this episode offers grounded, practical insight. 🔗 Learn more at wheelofconsent.org and bettymartin.org ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Betty Martin 03:34 Consent Beyond “Getting a Yes” 04:23 When Silence Is Mistaken for Consent 04:47 The Three Minute Game Explained (Wheel of Consent) 05:40 Why Couples Say “We’re Not Having Sex” 06:19 Not Knowing What You Want in Intimacy 07:39 Giving vs Receiving and Relationship Confusion 08:18 Power Dynamics in the Bedroom and the Boardroom 09:26 What Receiving Really Means (Reframing Giving) 09:56 Why Receiving Feels Vulnerable 10:48 Low Libido, Unwanted Touch, and Desire Mismatch 11:56 Asking for What You Want Without Shame 12:58 Why Over-Giving Can Kill Desire 13:58 When “I Don’t Want Anything” Isn’t True 14:48 Redefining Connection Beyond Sex 16:38 Miscommunication Stories That Reveal Consent Gaps 20:03 Resources: Wheel of Consent and Betty Martin’s Work LISTEN + FOLLOW Substack: https://trippingoverlove.substack.com/ Instagram: @trippingoverlovepodcast TikTok: @trippingoverlove Facebook:   / trippingoverlovepodcast   #intimacy #wheelofconsent #libido