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At 79, I Understand Why My Marriage Failed

I'm 79 years old, and I've been divorced for 23 years. My ex-wife is remarried now. Happy. She has grandchildren, a garden, a husband who sits with her on the porch in the evenings. I'm happy for her. Because I'm the reason she didn't have those things with me. For 23 years, I told myself our marriage failed because we grew apart. Because sometimes love just isn't enough. But at 79, I finally understand the truth. Our marriage didn't fail because of what happened between us. It failed because of what didn't. We were married for 28 years. I thought I was a good husband. I worked hard. Paid bills. Showed up. I was there. But I wasn't present. There's a difference. It took me two decades alone to learn it. My wife used to ask me what I was thinking. What I was feeling. What scared me. I'd deflect. Joke. Change the subject. By year 12, she stopped asking. At 55, over breakfast, she asked for a divorce. She said: "I've been lonely for 20 years. I don't want to be lonely anymore." I said I was right there. I'd always been there. She said, "That's the problem. You've been there. But you've never been here." I didn't understand. Not for 23 years. I understand now. I spent 28 years refusing to be vulnerable. Refusing to let her really know me. Building walls instead of intimacy. And you can't love someone who won't let you know them. At 79, I live alone. I have no one who really knows me. Caroline knew me better than anyone—and I haven't spoken to her in a decade. Because I spent 28 years making sure she couldn't. If your partner is trying to talk to you—really talk to you—don't do what I did. Answer the question. Tell them what you're feeling. Let them in. Because they'll stop asking eventually. And one day, you'll understand why they left. Just like I finally do. --- 📌 Key Moments: 0:00 - I'm 79, divorced 23 years, finally understand why 1:30 - Married Caroline at 32—the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen 3:15 - She used to ask what I was thinking—I'd deflect every time 5:40 - Year 12: She stopped asking questions 7:20 - Age 52: She started building a life outside our marriage 9:45 - "Do you even like me?" - The question I couldn't answer 12:10 - Breakfast divorce: "You've been there, but never here" 15:30 - Dating after divorce—same pattern, same results 18:00 - At 65: Completely alone, finally starting to understand 20:45 - What I should have learned at 32 22:30 - You can't love someone from behind a wall --- ⚠️ This video discusses themes of divorce, emotional unavailability, marriage failure, loneliness, regret, and vulnerability. It may resonate deeply with those in struggling relationships or those who've experienced similar patterns. --- 🔔 If you've ever been told you're "emotionally unavailable" or if your partner stopped trying to reach you, I'd appreciate hearing your perspective in the comments. --- #Marriage #Divorce #EmotionallyUnavailable #MarriageAdvice #Regret #LifeLessons #RelationshipAdvice #FailedMarriage #Vulnerability #ElderlyWisdom #TrueStory #MarriageFailed #LetThemIn #RealTalk #HusbandAdvice