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The Two R’s: Rehearsing and Ruminating (And How to Break the Loop)

In this Sunday Shortie episode of RTDB, we’re unpacking two classic people-pleasing behaviors that keep us stuck in anxiety cycles: rehearsing conversations before they happen and *ruminating long after they’re over*. If you’ve ever: Practiced what you were going to say 47 different ways Played out worst-case scenarios in your head Replayed a conversation for hours (or days) afterward Wondered if you were “too much,” “too blunt,” or “not enough” This episode is for you. WHY PEOPLE PLEASERS REHEARSE CONVERSATIONS Rehearsing isn’t about preparation — it’s about protection. When you grow up managing other people’s emotions, your brain learns that safety equals predictability. So before hard conversations, your nervous system tries to: Predict every possible reaction Script the perfect response Avoid conflict at all costs Control the outcome The problem? You can’t control the outcome. And trying to creates anxiety, not clarity. We’ll talk about the neuroscience behind rehearsing — how your brain’s threat system (hello, amygdala) activates when connection feels at risk — and why your body treats social tension like physical danger.