Ep 22 Mum, Interrupted Podcast - Life's Redirection: Finding Joy in New Roles & Realities скачать в хорошем качестве

Ep 22 Mum, Interrupted Podcast - Life's Redirection: Finding Joy in New Roles & Realities

Huda reconnects with Farah Amalina — an old schoolmate — for a candid conversation about changing direction when work and motherhood no longer fit. Farah shares what life has been like after stepping away from corporate work for about a year and a half: having more capacity to be fully present for her husband, two daughters, and especially her aging parents. She reflects on how full-time work left her physically present but mentally distracted, how working mums struggle to “switch off” and compartmentalise, and how work tends to spill into home far more than home spills into work. They discuss the invisible mental load Farah carried as an executive assistant and team coordinator for over 10 years, the difficulty of true coverage when taking leave, and the way children notice divided attention — leading to a playful segment imagining “KPIs” set by their kids (books read, presence, treats, or breastfeeding). Farah acknowledges the privilege and financial realities involved in taking a break, the guilt that can come with it, and how the choice also strengthened her marriage by clarifying roles and deepening trust. The conversation also explores letting partners own household tasks without micromanagement, the challenges of letting go of control, and the importance of flexibility in parenting. A major thread is Farah’s evolving relationship with her parents — gratitude alongside reflection about generational differences, affection, and the nuance behind conversations on “generational trauma.” She shares that her father was recently diagnosed with lung cancer, and how hospital visits and increased time together have shifted her perspective on love, partnership, aging, and mortality. Farah also reflects on her mother as a lifelong full-time working mum, how nervous she felt sharing her decision to stop working, and a meaningful moment when her mother publicly backed her choice at a family gathering. They end with Farah’s advice to her first-time-mum self: COVID will end, enjoy the fleeting baby season, and remember that “work is work,” while family time is irreplaceable. Connect with me: Instagram: @themumcollective.sg Substack: https://themumcollectivesg.substack.com 00:00 Meet Farah: From Schoolmates to an Instagram Reconnection 00:53 Choosing a Slower Season: Leaving Work to Be Present for Family 03:02 Finding Yourself Again: Fitness, Walks & Postpartum Body Changes 04:08 Why Working Mums Can’t Switch Off: Mental Load & No Real Coverage 09:35 Kids’ ‘KPIs’: Presence, Books, and the Phone-Scrolling Callouts 12:13 Big Questions from Little Humans: Curiosity, Bedtime Theology & Growing Up 16:40 When Work Language Haunts Home: The ‘Superhero’ Trigger 20:28 The Realities of Taking a Break: Money, Guilt, Identity & Marriage Roles 26:03 Advice for Mums Considering a Pause: No One-Size-Fits-All 26:43 Role Models & Taking What Works (Without Copy-Pasting) 28:14 When Advice Is Invited: Sharing Perspectives Without Authority 28:48 Why This Podcast Matters: Learning From Different Mum Stories 30:19 Letting Go at Home: Control, Partners Helping & Kids Adapting 32:33 Mental Load & True Task Ownership (A-to-Z Responsibility) 36:07 Shifting to Parents: Gratitude, Generational Trauma & Love Languages 40:09 Dad’s Diagnosis & Caring for Aging Parents: A Sobering Reset 43:55 Mum as a Role Model: Breaking the News & Owning the SAHM Identity 47:34 Work vs Workplace: Choosing Peace Over Toxic Environments 52:10 Final Reflections: What I’d Tell My First-Time Mum Self 54:16 Closing Thanks & Wrap-Up