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How to Motivate Kids Without Bribes or Threats - Intrinsic Motivation

Are you tired of relying on sticker charts, lollies, or threats to get your kids to listen? In this episode of Raising Changemakers, we dive deep into the science of Intrinsic Motivation and why "good job" might actually be hurting your child's drive. We explore the difference between extrinsic rewards (the "carrot and stick" method) and raising a self-starter who wants to do the work. We also share our personal journey moving from "survival mode" parenting to intentional parenting, including the controversial decision to let our toddlers use real knives in the kitchen to build autonomy. In this video, we cover: Why sticker charts can kill creativity (and when it’s okay to use them). The concept of "Affordable Consequences" vs. Helicopter Parenting. The "High Five" experiment: Why ambiguous gestures work better than praise. Insights from Daniel Pink’s book Drive and Tony Wagner’s Creating Innovators. If you want to raise children who are driven by passion and purpose rather than rewards and threats, this episode is for you. 00:00 - Intro: The most important trait for children 01:12 - What is Intrinsic Motivation? 01:28 - Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation 03:10 - Insights from the book "Drive" by Daniel Pink 05:13 - When to use rewards (Algorithmic vs. Creative tasks) 06:17 - How rewards kill joy in creative work 11:00 - Mapping your child’s motivation 12:04 - The Rule of "Affordable Consequences" 13:50 - Montessori at Home: Why we gave our toddler a knife 15:30 - The Arc of Innovation: Play, Passion, Purpose 17:40 - The "High Fives Motivate" Study: Rethinking praise 20:40 - Survival Mode vs. Intentional Parenting: Our personal stories 32:40 - Why we quit our jobs to be better examples 33:44 - 3 Actionable Steps to build intrinsic motivation today 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED Book: Drive by Daniel Pink Book: Creating Innovators by Tony Wagner Study: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles... Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs ABOUT RAISING CHANGEMAKERS We are a parents documenting our journey to raise children who are self-starters and changemakers. We explore alternative education, Montessori principles, and intentional parenting strategies to help our kids (and yours) thrive in an ever changing world. We are happy to mention our other business, elephlay, which we own and operation. www.elephlay.com. elephlay sells Montessori-inspired baskets and trays to help in Raising Changemakers. #ParentingTips #IntrinsicMotivation #MontessoriAtHome #RaisingChangemakers #motivation #montessori #parenting