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Spoil Your Baby Ep 46 - Discipline and Development: The Zero to Three Guide feat Dr Vanessa Lapointe

Why is traditional discipline actually causing anxiety and behavioral problems in our children? Dr. Vanessa Lapointe began her career as a practicing psychologist and mother, having been trained in a behaviorist approach that taught her to squash any unwanted behavior to make it stop. She quickly noticed a profound mismatch between this training and the reality of the children coming into her clinic. Dr. Lapointe observed that many referrals were anxiety-based, and it seemed that the very discipline methods being employed by parents were actually causing the anxiety and leading to challenging behaviors. This realization prompted her to conduct a deep dive into child development, including studying the work of Gordon Neufeld. Her key transformation involved moving away from punishment-focused methods, recognizing that the "downstream fallout" from harsh discipline creates more disruption in children's lives than a compassionate approach. Dr. Lapointe now operates from the developmentalist perspective, focusing on the antecedent—what happens in the environment before a behavior occurs—rather than the consequence. She explains that because babies' brains are immature and lack the necessary wiring for self-regulation and impulse control, their "bad behaviors" are actually developmentally appropriate expressions of overwhelm or excitement. Dr. Lapointe emphasizes that we must approach parenting with compassion, humanity, and heart, ensuring our children can grow up in the way nature intended, without having to recover from their childhood. Key Takeaways ● Traditional behaviorist discipline, which focuses on stopping behavior, often leads to negative outcomes like anxiety and continued disruption later in life. ● Focus on the antecedent (the environment and stressors before the behavior) rather than the consequence (punishment) to nurture healthy development. ● Misbehavior does not exist; all challenging behavior is simply communication of a child's needs or an underlying stress response. ● Boundaries for babies should define how we hold ourselves within, not how we keep the baby out or make them wait. ● Compassionate parenting gives us the opportunity to heal our inner child by retemplating our own childhood experiences and emotional reactions. Join The Nurture Neuroscience Practitioner Certification Join our February 2026 Program: https://nurture-neuroscience.com/prof... Resources ● Books: ○ Discipline Without Damage ○ Parenting Right From the Start ○ https://drvanessalapointe.com/child-d... ● Website: https://drvanessalapointe.com ● Facebook:   / drvanessalapointe   ● Instagram: @dr.vanessalapointe   / dr.vanessalapointe   ● X (Twitter) https://x.com/DrVlapointe Guest Bio: Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is a mom, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. She holds a doctoral degree in psychology, and practiced as a psychologist for nearly 20 years, before devoting her full-time energy to connecting with parents and other “big people” around the globe in 2023. Founder of The North Star Developmental Clinic, Dr. Vanessa has long been supporting families and children in her developmental clinic alongside her team, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system. Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. Ready to Connect with Greer? "Nurture Neuroscience" Website: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/ Instagram:   / drgreerkirshenbaum   LinkedIn:   / greerkirshenbaum   FREE GUIDE, "Nurture Your Baby's Stress": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/... FREE GUIDE, "Manage the Stressors & Triggers of Parenting": https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/... Order "The Nurture Revolution" Book: https://www.nurture-neuroscience.com/...