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The Cost of Being "Chill" | Hello Hayes | Full Episode | Advice Column

hello hayeselnuts! we're back with our normally scheduled programming this week. in this episode, I'm answering three letters from women who feel like they (and their feelings, boundaries, and bodies) are too much. we explore the question: is it selfish...or is it self-worth? Letter one features a man who insists on being besties with his exes. Letter two, from someone whose boyfriend told her he's losing attraction towards her because of her weight gain. (If you're uncomfortable with the topic of weight, feel free to skip to letter two. See timestamps!) And letter three is from a soon-to-be 21-year old whose boyfriend...doesn't "get" birthdays. Enjoy! Hang with me on Instagram here:   / afhayes   Follow along for more episodes of Hello Hayes:    / @alexandrahayesrobinson   ✨ CHAPTERS ✨ 00:00 Introduction 00:25 The question of being “too much” 02:55 Overview of the 3 letters 03:56 My advice about taking advice 06:54 Letter 1: “Not so chill girlfriend” 09:06 Having a reaction making you “not chill” 11:12 Unpacking the boyfriend details 17:32 Insecurities vs something to be insecure about 28:56 Letter 2: “Body size and attraction” 29:54 Angry about perceptions of weight 31:36 You are desirable 35:57 Coming back with better tools 39:44 Reality of body changes 42:33 Sample script 44:55 Letter 3: “Birthday ‘brat’” 46:51 Being celebrated & celebrating others 49:26 Expectations and flexibility 52:14 Storytime when my birthday was ruined by a man Video Referenced: Fatphobia Is Not A Sexual Preference by Sonalee Rashatwar:    • Fatphobia Is Not A Sexual Preference by So...   You can find me on Instagram here:   / afhayes   Follow along for more episodes of Hello Hayes:    / @alexandrahayesrobinson   👋 SUBMIT AN ADVICE LETTER 👋 Send your letters to Hayes at hellohayesadvice at gmail dot com. Pro tip: Use "YouTube subscriber" in the subject line, plus a few words that describe your story. Like this: "YouTube subscriber + Why do I feel so sad around the holidays?" ✍️ LIKE TO READ? ✍️ 10,000+ Hayeselnuts and curious thinkers read my weekly(ish) newsletter on Substack, where I publish my most personal writing and advice columns. All content is free, but paid subscriptions are available to those who are able to support my work financially! You get bonus audio episodes and a "cut the line" pass to my advice column. 5/month or 50/year! Subscribe: https://hellohayes.substack.com/subsc... 🎧LISTEN TO THE PODCAST🎧 On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3ASu2iC... On Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 🤝 LET'S WORK TOGETHER 🤝 For literary inquiries, please reach out to [email protected] and [email protected]. For all other partnerships, [email protected]