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Real Talk on Surviving a Coercive Control Divorce with Lisa Happ

If you've ever sat in your driveway and just... not been able to go inside, if you've spent years managing someone else's emotions just to keep the peace, if you've wondered whether you were losing your mind — this episode was made for you. In this raw, practical, and deeply validating conversation on Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Lisa Happ (https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/r...) : former therapist, certified divorce coach, narcissistic abuse recovery coach, grief coach, and survivor of a coercive control relationship who lost her son while she was in the process of leaving it. Lisa is the kind of expert who has lived every inch of what she teaches, and that lived experience radiates through every word of this conversation. She works alongside her clients' legal teams, travels the world to appear in court with them, and is available by text at any hour — because she knows that a high-conflict divorce with a coercive or narcissistic partner is not something you can navigate with a once-a-week appointment. It's something you survive, day by day, breath by breath, with the right people in your corner. The centerpiece of this episode is Lisa's foundational truth: you cannot out-strategize your nervous system. You cannot out-logic it. You cannot outrun it. And if you try, it will take you down. From there, she offers a cascade of genuinely actionable tools for anyone in the middle of a high-conflict divorce or narcissistic abuse recovery — tools grounded in nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, and the hard-won wisdom of someone who's been exactly where her clients are. She talks about the danger of over-venting: why telling your story over and over to anyone who will listen actually keeps your nervous system locked in the cycle of abuse, and why there's a crucial difference between venting and processing. She offers a brilliant, boundary-setting phrase — "Thank you for asking. I'm not open to talking about that right now. If anything changes, I'll let you know" — that shuts down intrusive questions without explanation or apology. And she delivers some of the most memorable nervous system hacks in Divorce Happens history: a specific five-to-eight breathing pattern that signals safety to your brain, screaming into a half-empty water bottle until there's nothing left, holding ice cubes, and naming the spiral voice in your head something that makes you laugh — or something ruder than that. What makes this episode truly special is the way Lisa holds two things at once: unflinching honesty about how hard this is, and absolute certainty that you will get through it. She is not here to sugarcoat coercive control or minimize what it costs to leave a relationship built on gaslighting, manipulation, financial abuse, and isolation. But she is also here to tell you, clearly and without reservation: you can build a whole new life on the other side of this. She did. Her clients do. The only way through is to stop trying to think your way out, find the team that actually understands what you're dealing with, and start learning to regulate the nervous system that has been running on crisis mode for years. If you're in a high-conflict divorce, recovering from narcissistic abuse, or just trying to figure out how to take the very first step toward getting support — Lisa's closing advice is for you: you don't have to commit to anything. Just make one call. Take one step. And see how it feels to finally choose yourself. 🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry: The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/ 📱 Instagram:   / freshstartsregistry   📘 Facebook:   / freshstartsregistry   🎙 Podcast IG:   / divorcehappenspod   📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/