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Why You Fall for the "Bad Guy" (It’s Not Low Self-Esteem)

Do you find yourself constantly drawn to partners who are reckless, emotionally unavailable, or "bad" for you? You might think this attraction stems from a "broken wing" syndrome or a desire for self-destruction, but psychology suggests a deeper, more profound reason. In this video, we explore the hidden dynamics of the "Good Person" persona—the mask we wear to survive childhood—and how it creates a dangerous shadow self. We discuss why your nervous system might confuse "calm" with "abandonment" and why you are subconsciously seeking the "bad guy" not to be hurt, but to reclaim your own lost power and agency. It’s time to stop looking for a villain to break your cage and learn how to unlock the door yourself through the process of Integration. Timestamps:00:00 - The Pull Toward Darkness: Why we want to burn it down 00:57 - The Myth of the "Broken Wing" & Self-Destruction 01:28 - Case Study: Sarah and the "Good Child" Trap 02:15 - Carl Jung & The Creation of The Shadow 02:59 - Why the Nervous System Craves the "Bad Guy" 03:47 - Conditional Love and Neural Architecture 04:34 - Why Calm Feels Like Abandonment 05:17 - The Envy of Agency: What you actually want from them 06:55 - The Trap of Trying to "Fix" Him 08:35 - Integration: How to Stop Being "Nice" & Start Being Whole 09:56 - Conclusion: Reclaiming Your Own Fire Hashtags: #ShadowWork #Psychology #AttachmentTheory #Relationships #SelfHealing