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How to Say No Without the Guilt Hangover

You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re overloaded. If you’re the one remembering the appointments, managing the calendar, anticipating everyone’s needs, smoothing the tension, and holding it all together… This episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible mental load — the tabs running in your brain all day long — and how it quietly turns into over-functioning, resentment, exhaustion, and what I call the guilt hangover after you finally set a boundary. And in neurodiverse relationships? This dynamic can intensify fast. I’m joined by therapist Dr. Gloria King, a dually licensed mental health and marriage & family therapist, and we unpack: What “losing yourself” actually looks like in real life Why vacations don’t feel restorative when you’re still managing everything How executive functioning differences can push one partner into the planner/manager role Why guilt doesn’t mean your boundary is wrong The childhood conditioning behind people-pleasing Religious messaging about self-sacrifice and the “empty cup” problem What to do when there’s pushback How to know when a situation feels unsafe Why discomfort is a muscle you build If you’ve ever thought, “I created this dynamic… so now what?” This conversation will meet you exactly where you are. You matter. Your needs matter. And guilt does not mean you’re doing something wrong. ⏱ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS 00:00 The Invisible Mental Load: Tabs Running All Day 00:57 When Caring Turns Into Over-Functioning 02:22 Meet Dr. Gloria King + What “Neurodiverse Relationships” Means 06:02 What “I Lost Myself” Looks Like (The Second Shift) 07:04 Why You Can’t Shut It Off on Vacation 09:03 How We Get Stuck in Roles 10:55 Childhood Conditioning & “Good Girl” Scripts 13:35 Religion, Self-Sacrifice & the Empty Cup 18:09 What Self-Love Actually Means 20:52 The Guilt Hangover Explained 23:14 Micro-Yeses & The Mall Story 28:35 Resentment & “I Created the Monster” 29:23 Ownership vs. Self-Blame 31:32 Where People-Pleasing Starts 33:08 The New Dance: Boundaries When Others Don’t Like It 34:55 Handling Pushback & Building the Muscle 35:52 When It’s Not Safe 39:03 The Power Pathway & Holding Boundaries 44:13 You Matter 47:24 Fitting In vs. Belonging 49:30 Where to Find Dr. Gloria 🔥 READY TO GO DEEPER? If this episode hit home, my digital course walks you through understanding your patterns through the lens of nervous system wiring and early conditioning — so you can stop over-functioning and start living Masks Off. Link: https://www.kimgrosscoaching.com/free... 👉 Connect with Kim (the host): 👉 New Book: https://www.kimgrosscoaching.com/free... 👉 TikTok:   / kimgrosscoaching   👉 Instagram:   / kimgrosscoaching   👉 Website: www.kimgrosscoaching.com 👉 Facebook:   / kim.gross.104   👉 Facebook Masks Off Community:   / masksoffcommunity   👉 YouTube:    / @kimgrosscoaching   👉 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMq... 👉 Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 👉 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/notification... 👉 Unmasked Newsletter: http://subscribepage.io/masksoffnewsl... 👉 People-Pleasing Quiz: https://www.kimgrosscoaching.com/quiz... About Dr. Gloria: I'm an extroverted introvert, lol and I love saying that as I used to be so shy. I'm originally from Puerto Rico and have lived in FL since I was 8 years old. I'm married and my husband and I are both huge dog lovers and have had dogs in the office with us for quite sometime now. I love time with friends and family, murder mystery shows, and laughing out loud. I'm fascinated by what makes people tick and love being a part of clients' life journeys. I''m dually licensed as a mental health counselor and marriage and family therapist and obtained my doctorate in 2005. I've been a therapist for almost 30 years and in private practice since 2008. My specialties include women's issues including people pleasing, couples work with infidelity and intimate betrayal trauma, and neurodiverse individual and couples counseling. Connect with Dr. Gloria: www.drgloriariveraking.com, https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?..., Instagram: @ drgloria_