20170514-02 为何单身者因单身痛苦？ скачать в хорошем качестве

20170514-02 为何单身者因单身痛苦？

为何单身者因单身痛苦？ Why Singles Have Agony Over Singleness? 当保罗谈到婚姻的事情时，他说他愿意信徒们无所挂虑（不卷入婚姻的挂虑，只单单为主的事情挂虑）。这并非说婚姻是不好，但试问一个单身者为何因单身而痛苦？其实，并不是单身者的条件导致他不能被满足。可能他曾经恋爱失败过（所以一直向往被爱的感觉），或是他所爱的人拒绝他（失落感），活着也因他找不到符合他条件的伴侣（理想达不到），不然就是旁边人给他压力，导致他认为单身不好（外界给的压力），再就是他看到条件似乎比他“差”的人得着配偶（心里感到不公平）。其实，在这些种种理由当中，叫他最痛苦是他自己没发现，就是他看不见神的爱，心里也越来越失去爱。其实，人的被造势得了神的爱之后，他需要能够爱人，才能幸福美满。 When Paul talked about marital issues, he said he wished for believers to have no worry (not being involved in the worries of marriage, only concern for the matters of the Lord). This is not implying that marriage is not good, but try asking why does a single feel bitter about his status? Actually, it is not that his conditions do not satisfy him, but for some reasons, he especially cannot enjoy the freedom and joy given by God. It could be because he experienced a relationship failure before (thus longing to be loved), or the people he loves rejected him (feeling lost), or he cannot find someone that fits his criteria (unable to reach his ideal), or the people around him gives him pressure, causing him to feel it is not good to be single (external pressure), or perhaps he sees how people of worse conditions than him has gotten spouses (sense of unfairness). Actually, in all these reasons, what torments him most is not realising that, he cannot see God’s love and is losing love incrementally in his heart. Actually, aside from receiving God’s love, man is created to be able to love others in order to be happy.