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Gay Men: Why You Should Be Monogamous

It seems like everyone these days is non-monogamous. Terms like ethical non-monogamy, open relationship, and even polyamorous are part of every conversation for most gay men. But what about monogamy? And how do you know which dynamic is better for you? As a gay men’s therapist, let me offer a case as to why monogamy might be good for you. We don’t know enough yet. The truth is we don’t have enough objective data yet to evaluate the success of open relationships. Sure, folks engaging in swinging or non-monogamy is nothing new. But these dynamics were often considered taboo and therefore weren’t given proper analysis and study. Monogamy has benefits too. Most people think of monogamy in terms of what they’re not getting. They feel like they’re being deprived. It’s true that monogamy does limit the scope your sexual exploration. But monogamy has its benefits too. Open relationships open you up to more than just free fun. They put you at risk for STIs for example. But more importantly, they elicit jealousy, insecurity, and a host of hurt feelings—even for the most confident gay man. Communication isn’t the key If you ask folks how they plan to navigate the pitfalls of an open relationship, they will almost always say the same thing. They plan to “communicate.” Sharing your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly is great. But don’t fool yourself into thinking simple communication will make this process easy. You can communicate all you want, and you plan to leave your partner at home alone to go hook up with someone else. Despite all this “communication,” don’t be surprised if his feelings are hurt. You can’t have it all. My take: there are pros and cons to both open and closed relationships. But more importantly, you can’t have it both ways. Whichever relationship structure you choose, you have to accept that there are benefits and drawbacks. You have to decide which benefits are more compelling to you, and which risks you find more tolerable. ☎️ Book a free consultation call with me: michaelpezzullo.com/contact Read more about gay men and monogamy on my blog: https://www.michaelpezzullo.com/post/... More therapist videos 👇 1. ⏩   • Are “Daddy Issues” Real? | A Gay Men’s The...   2. ⏩    • Gay Therapist’s Guide to Grindr   3. ⏩    • Gay & Codependent?   4. ⏩    • Navigating the Political Divide: A Therapi...   Follow me on social media👇   / michaelpezzullo     / michaelpezzullolmft     / michaelpezzullolmft     / michaelpezzullolmft   https://www.michaelpezzullo.com/ #monogamy #nonmonogamy #openrelationship #gay #relationshipadvice #dating #polyamory #couples #mentalhealthmatters #gaymonogamy #lgbtqrelationships #gaytherapist #modernlove #queerdating #monogamymatters #openvsmonogamous #gaymentalk #healthyrelationships #emotionalwellness #relationshipgoals #choosemonogamy #queerlove #intentionaldating #lovewithoutlabels #lgbtqsupport #mindfulrelationships #gaycommunityvoices #monogamydebate #consciouslove