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Mastering Saying What's Not Being Said!

If you want more depth and intimacy in your relationships, learn to say what's not being said. You'll build trust, ease and honesty into your connections. Join http://www.Relationship10x.com Today! Reid Mihalko from http://www.Relationship10x.com and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com presents Relationship10x Free Training Videos. Reid: Hello everybody. It is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com broadcasting to you from http://www.Relationship10x.com where we are going to teach people how to transform their relationships 10 times over in a little 10 minute video. That is the challenge that I’ve set for myself is today, I’m going to teach you how to navigate emotional distress and also be better communicator. But first, I just want to say thank you so much all of you who commented on the first video and who’d been joining us to this video sequences. I’m so excited about all the buzz and the emails and the text and everything that I’m getting from people so thank you so much for being a part of this whole thing and being interested in taking all the craziness that happens during the holidays and actually turning it from something that you survived with your friends, family, and loved ones and to something that you can actually thrive and we talked about last time in the first video how you can feel more romantic for your partner or how you can transform their experience of your relationship by the ways that you’re orienting and understanding their romantic orientation. What you can do to leverage their love languages and how to create a romance homerun and I’m really excited for the comments and the suggestions that people are putting in because during the next video is when we get to announce at the end of that video who’s going to win the sex geek t-shirt. This is all very, very excited but we only have left like 8 more minutes for this video for me to teach you a whole bunch of stuff so let’s just dive in. The first thing I want to teach you today, the first concept is a relationship mistake that a lot of people make because the way that we raise in culture, the way that we were role-modeled relationships growing up and the concept is that, most people are asking in the relationships. They’re asking for what they think the people around them will be a yes to. Alright? So what a lot of people are doing is calibrating like well, okay, what are they going to say yes to and then they’re figuring out how to ask for that rather that actually getting clear about what it is that they really want and what they can then basically do is how they can ask for it in a way that gives the other person room to say yes or no. This concept about basically hedging your bets and only asking for the things that you think other people will be a yes for. Basically what this starts to do is create resentment in your life because what you’re doing is you slowly cutting yourself off for what you actually want in your life. You’re trying to make everybody else “happy” rather than speaking up for the things that are important to you which will leave you feeling more self-expressed and in video number 3 we’re going to talk about this whole idea about self-expression vs. attraction and what you can do to flip that cultural paradigm on its head so that your relationship starts being more self-expressed for yourself. But in this, if we take this idea that most of us have been living in our lives. Asking for the things that we think other people will be a yes for. What ends if happening is we ended up, some of us, slowly getting upset, slowly building up resentments and what ends if happening is for you to start transforming your relationship life for you to start making the holidays a little bit easier. We need to learn how to have difficult conversations. This a whole formula that I’m going to give you. Some of you might have already seen this because this gets passed around a lot in certain sex educator community circles. This is my difficult conversation formula and below on the page is a download link for you to download an actual pdf version of this so that you can have it as a worksheet and work from and put on your fridge or whatever you want to do so you always got it with you. The way the difficult formula conversation works is basically writing exercise and what you’re going to do is you’re going to first write out, what are not saying is blank? Whatever that is, you might want to give yourself like 2 minutes to just write all the things that you’re not saying in your relationships for this example when you’re going home for holidays, make a list of the things that you’re not speaking up about or saying in your relationships in home for the holidays. You don’t have to say all of them, you don’t say any of them but getting them out on paper, way more useful than powerful than having them rattling around your head where they get a lot more momentum.