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124: Understanding Your External Self: How Trauma Shapes Your Personality & Relationships

Video Description Understanding Your External Self: How Trauma Shapes Your Personality & Relationships | A Box With No Lid Welcome back to A Box With No Lid. In this video, we delve into a crucial part of our psyche: the ‘External Self’. This is the "you" that the world sees, shaped by childhood emotional priorities and survival rules formed from trauma. We’ll explore how these often-unconscious drivers impact your communication, relationships, and daily life, and why understanding them is the key to breaking down barriers to connection and healing. We cannot heal from complex trauma alone—it requires safe co-regulation with others. This video gives you the framework to start understanding the rules of your external self, so you can begin to negotiate with them and create the meaningful connections necessary for recovery. 🔍 In This Video, You’ll Learn: What the “External Self” is and how it’s constructed. How core ‘Emotional Priorities’ from early childhood drive your actions and perceptions. Why you are often misunderstood (and misunderstand others) in communication. How survival ‘Filters and Rules’ can block intimacy and support. The foundational principle that healing requires community and co-regulation. The first steps to negotiating with your internal rules to create safety and connection. ⏱️ VIDEO CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 - Welcome & Channel Introduction 1:45 - From Internal to External Self: The Focus of This Video 3:20 - What is the "External Self"? 5:10 - The Core Driver: Childhood Emotional Priorities 8:35 - How Filters & Perception Shape Communication Conflicts 12:15 - The Problem: Survival Rules in Non-Threatening Situations 16:40 - Why We Can’t Heal Alone: The Need for Co-Regulation 19:50 - The World Doesn’t Play By Our Rules: Finding Your Ecology 23:30 - How to Start Negotiating With Your Rules 26:00 - Summary & The Path Forward 28:10 - Closing Thoughts & Community Feedback ✍️ KEYWORDS & SEO PHRASES: complex trauma healing, external self, trauma and personality, emotional priorities, survival rules, trauma recovery, co-regulation, nervous system regulation, childhood trauma, understanding ego, trauma filters, communication breakdown, healing from trauma, finding safe connection, trauma therapy, internal family systems, trauma informed, emotional triggers, maladaptive coping, building community, trauma survivor 💬 JOIN THE CONVERSATION: Healing happens in community. Share your insights or questions below! What’s one “rule” you’ve identified in your external self? Have you experienced a clash of emotional priorities in communication? What topics around trauma and healing would you like explored next? 🔔 SUBSCRIBE** and turn on notifications (click the bell) so you never miss a video on your journey toward understanding and healing from complex trauma. 💌 Contact Bear: 📩 Email | aboxwithnolid@gmail.com #TraumaHealing #ComplexTrauma #ExternalSelf #EmotionalPriorities #SurvivalRules #CoRegulation #NervousSystemHealing #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealth #CPTSD #Therapy #SelfHelp #InnerWork #Attachment #ChildhoodTrauma #HealingJourney --- About A Box With No Lid: This channel explores the narrative, story, and reality of trauma and complex trauma. Bear draws from both personal lived experience as an adoptee and survivor, and years as a practitioner and advocate, to broaden awareness and provide practical ideas for improving quality of life day-to-day. Remember, most healing happens in the minutes, hours, and days of our daily lives. --- Disclaimer: This content is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have. © A Box With No Lid