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How Do I Support My Kids Without Fighting All Their Battles?

Modern dads are around their kids much more than men were a generation or two ago. We see their struggles more and have opportunities to fix them, but should we? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about supporting our kids without fighting all their battles. Why This Matters One of the best ways we can support our kids is to stand beside them as they fight their own battles. Key Takeaways • Modern dads are more involved: Research shows dads now spend 3–4x more time with our kids than men in the 1970s. • But more involved can become “too” involved: More time gave rise to helicopter, lawn mower, bulldozer, and drone parents. • Kids will always need support: It will change during every stage, but dads will always play a role in their kids’ lives. Action Steps for Dads 1. Know When To Step In If kids have tried to overcome a challenge and still need help, Dad should be ready to step in. It isn't about rescuing. It's about protecting and equipping when they truly need help. 2. Step In vs. Step Back Determine when things go from “hard” to “too hard.” If things are just hard, step back and let your kids handle them. If things become “too hard” step in and help. 3. Really Listen. Listening doesn’t mean you always agree with your kid’s reasoning or behavior, it just means you care enough to really understand where they are coming from. 4. Helping Them Process. They don’t learn if we give them the answers. Helping them process, without doing it for them, is helping them grow. 5. Be Their Biggest Fan. Kids need is our words of encouragement, reassurance, and belief in them when they are having a hard time believing in themselves. 6. Letting Them Struggle. You can’t get stronger without the struggle of working out, learn a new language without the struggle of learning it, get through grief without facing it. Important Episode Timestamps 00:00 – 00:43 | Parenting Has Changed Drastically The dads compare today’s dads to previous generations and discuss how things have changed. 00:43 – 03:38 | Helicopter, Lawnmower, Bulldozer, and Drone Parents A look at how parenting styles evolved—first hovering, then clearing obstacles, then aggressively removing all challenges. 03:38 – 07:03 | Tracking, Tech, and Emotional Helicoptering The dads discuss the challenge of not swooping into kids’ feelings too quickly. 07:03 – 09:12 | Fixing vs. Helping The dads reflect on rescuing kids from basic responsibilities. 09:12 – 12:27 | The Big Question: Support or Interfere? How do parents know when to step in and when to step back? They dads explore patience, development, and natural consequences. 12:27 – 16:40 | Knowing When to Step In: Safety, Severity, and Seasons The dads differentiate “hard” vs. “too hard” and share stories about bullying, coaching, and giving kids guided choices. 16:40 – 23:03 | Helping Kids Process Challenges Without Taking Over Real examples of anxiety, academics, and emotional struggles and how dads can guide, listen, and encourage without taking control. 23:03 – 28:32 | Let Them Fail, Not Fall A rock-climbing analogy illustrates healthy struggle. APD Pro Move: This week, when you are tempted to jump in, pause and see if your kid can do it on their own. Sponsor: The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net. All Pro Dad Resources: Episode 88 – Could Your Son Be Struggling in Silence? https://allprodad.com/podcast/is-the-... Episode 95 – What Challenges is Generation Alpha Facing? https://allprodad.com/podcast/what-ch... 3 Reasons Your Child Needs to Struggle https://allprodad.com/3-reasons-your-... 5 Areas Where Your Teen Needs to Struggle https://allprodad.com/5-teen-struggle... 5 Reasons Not To Protect Your Kids From Struggle https://allprodad.com/reasons-to-stop... Connect with Us: ● Connect with Ted Lowe   / ted-lowe-b9811926   ● Connect with Bobby Lewis   / bobby-lewis-423701149   ● Connect with BJ Foster   / bj-foster-18304328   ● Subscribe to the All Pro Dad Podcast on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Get All Pro Dad merch! https://www.familyfirststore.net Join nearly 200,000 other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration sent straight to your inbox: https://www.allprodad.com/subscribe/ Get great content for moms at iMOM: https://www.imom.com