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Jordan Peterson The Pathway to Negotiated IDENTITY | Functional, Meaningful & Socially Valuable

excerpt from    • Jordan Peterson: STOP. And Take Responsibi...   ‪@JordanBPeterson‬ selected transcript: your identity has to be something that other people accept or it isn't going to work for you but that's all part of this exploration of who they could be the play is in fact the exercising of that realm of possibilities and so a good father a good parent puts a border of security around the child and play can take place there and the play is the investigation of multiple identities with the hope of finding one that is functional that is also socially desired because those things can't be dissociated your identity is not just who how you feel about yourself at this moment and you can't impose that on other people because they don't know how to deal with that like even if they wanted to, they wouldn't know the rules of the game you have to negotiate your identity with other people and so then you have to think of identity as something that's negotiated with other people part of what i was doing constantly as a clinical psychologist was helping people craft an ever more sophisticated identity and you want to have the kind of identity that makes people line up to want to play with you and if you have to use force to get people to comply it is a sign that you're not playing a very good game now maybe you can't think up a better one there's nothing that's going to work a state of emergency might (be) because we allow governments to use extra force during a state of emergency, but nobody thinks that's optimal so if people won't play (when) you're inviting them then the game isn't configured very well and it's very unlikely to be stable