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Things I thought were normal in love (that weren’t) and WE HIT 400 subs 🥳

In this video I talk about the things I thought were normal in love that actually weren’t, and how healing helped me realise the difference between chaos and real connection. For a long time I normalised feeling anxious in relationships, overthinking texts and energy, excusing emotional distance, being the one who always communicated and fixed things, and accepting hot and cold behaviour as chemistry. I thought patience with broken promises was love, silence instead of communication was normal, and intensity meant connection. I shrank my needs to avoid conflict, took breadcrumbs as effort, and stayed loyal to potential instead of reality. Healing taught me that love isn’t something you survive. Peace is the baseline. Consistency is romantic. If you’ve ever felt like this in relationships, you’re not broken, you were just loving with a nervous system shaped by past experiences. Things I thought were normal in love (that weren’t) • Feeling anxious more than calm in relationships • Over-analysing texts, tone, timing, energy • Excusing emotional distance because “they’ve been through a lot” • Being the one who always communicates, fixes, explains • Accepting hot and cold behaviour as chemistry • Feeling like I had to earn consistency • Being patient with broken promises • Normalising silence instead of conversation • Thinking intensity = connection • Shrinking my needs to avoid conflict • Feeling relieved when they were finally nice again • Confusing longing with love • Taking breadcrumbs and calling it effort • Being loyal to potential not reality • Feeling like love was something to survive #healingjourney #relationshiptruth #datingaftertrauma #emotionalhealing #toxicrelationshiprecovery #secureattachment #selfworthjourney #healednotbitter #relationshipawareness #womenhealing #breakgenerationalcycles #healthyrelationships 00:00 - Intro | reflecting and realising red flags 01:26 - how they make you feel | walking on eggshells 03:19 - free the nipple 03:52 - Excusing emotional distance bc they've been through a lot 04:56 - neighbour drilling 05:26 - explanations are not excuses 06:55 - leading majority of communication 09:28 - confusing hot/cold behaviour for passion 12:16 - feeling you must earn consistency 14:37 - too many broken promises 16:12 - silence instead of communication 17:30 - mistaking intensity for connection 18:46 - shrinking needs to avoid conflict 20:57 - feeling relief when they're good again 21:40 - accepting breadcrumbs as effort 22:59 - waiting for potential vs accepting reality as is | unrealised potential 25:21 - feeling love is something you need to survive 27:00 - be kind to yourself while learning and healing